Welcome to Following the Whispers blog

Thank you so much for taking the time to visit. Hope you enjoy your stay. I blog here on Monday and Tuesday. This blog was created at the time my memoir came out, in February, 2009. Its motto was: creating a life of inner peace and self-acceptance from the depths of despair.


"We are called human beings, not human doings."
Wes Nisker, Buddhist teacher

"The way to do is to be."

"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs..(And) if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly."
Theodore Roosevelt

Tuesday, April 15, 2014

Telling the Truth Tuesday: Blessings for things I never thought would be

Today I am filled with gratitude for all the blessings in my life that I never thought would happen.

  • To be in a loving, healthy, wonderful marriage for 18 years.
  • To have a loving, healthy relationship with my son.
  • To be at a very healthy, good weight and to feel good about how I look (at almost 65, no less)
  • To be financially secure
  • To be able to travel
  • To have written and published a memoir and now to have written a novel.
  • To be singing and dancing for older folks in retirement communities.
  • To have a wonderful community of loving friends
  • To feel strong and comfortable inside my own skin
  • To feel good about who I am
  • To be on a spiritual journey that has given me more inner peace than I could ever have imagined
How about you? Are there blessings in your life you never thought you'd have?

Monday, April 14, 2014

Monday Musings: Waiting for feedback

So I gave my novel to my editor and two beta readers last Thursday and now I wait. I'm not really nervous, though. Not sure why. My anxiety level around several major things in my life has dropped considerably and it is such a blessing. Usually waiting is the hardest thing. I am very impatient. Instead, I am beginning to think about the next step. Once the book is written, what next. I spent the last few days researching how to write a synopsis. I will do that. I will draft a query letter. I will research publishing houses. I will try to fit my novel into a particular genre, although I'm not sure it fits nicely into any one particular genre. Okay, I'm beginning to get overwhelmed, so I will stop musing for now...

Thursday, April 10, 2014

Another revision finished - yippee!!

Just put the finishing touches on my latest revision. 50,650 words. Yup, it's a real novel. Just sent this version to my editor and two beta readers. Yup, moving right along. If nothing else ever happens with this book, I can still say to myself, "You did it.You wrote a novel. Something you'd never ever thought you'd do." Yup. I'm struttin' and patting self on back. And dancing for joy.
Thanks to all of you for the support and encouragement.

Tuesday, April 8, 2014

Telling the Truth Tuesday: Jigsaw puzzles

I have become addicted to jigsaw puzzles. For the last few years I have been addicted to Spider Solitaire. It is my gift to myself when I finish a writing session. There is something about working the game that clears my mind like nothing else. For some, exercise might do it, but it doesn't for me. My mind still chatters while exercising. But Spider and jigsaw puzzles take and keep my focus and attention and I become very relaxed. The feeling of satisfaction when the last piece of the 2000 word puzzle fits in is bliss. I have come to realize that life is like a jigsaw puzzle. We are moving towards the whole, filling in the pieces as we go. I used to feel like I was full of holes that I had to fill in. Now I see the whole picture with just a few missing pieces. That, too, feels blissful.
How about you?

Monday, April 7, 2014

Monday Musings: being understood

There is nothing in the world like feeling some emotion that maybe you're struggling to figure out yourself and you begin to talk to a dear dear friend about it and through the course of the discussion, you understand what it is you are feeling and trying to say and lo and behold the dear dear friend you are talking to understands as well.  That is a feeling that is worth a million dollars.


Wednesday, April 2, 2014

Insecure Writer's Support Group - April

Once again, it is time for the Insecure Writer's Support Group, brainchild of Alex J. Cavanaugh www.alexjcavanaugh.blogspot.com. It is when writers in this incredibly supportive blogging community come together to share their writing war stories.

My post from yesterday could have served as my entry today. I am terrified about tackling publishing after I finish writing my novel. This from someone with 30+ years marketing experience. It is what I did before I retired. Not book publishing. But marketing and public relations, so I know my way around promotion. But it is so different when you must do it for yourself. I am so uncomfortable acknowledging any kinds of accomplishments that when I think about saying  - here I am, I wrote this book, please buy it, it makes me cringe.

I know I will get to a place where I can make myself do whatever is I need to do to get this book out in the world because I've worked too hard for too long not to. But oh how I dread it.

How about you?

Tuesday, April 1, 2014

Telling the truth Tuesday: I'm terrified

I can see light at the end of the tunnel in terms of the writing of my novel. Not sure how much more time it will take, but I know it's months, not years. That means thinking about publishing. And that terrifies me.  When I finished my memoir, I spent 2 1/2 years trying to find an agent. I wasn't successful. I didn't know about small publishing houses back then and that you could approach them directly. I thought you had to have an agent. When I couldn't find one, I decided to self-publish. I hired my own editors, then paid for services through the company I chose. I have no regrets. My book  is beautifully done, very professional, it received distribution in bookstores, etc. All print copies are sold. That was 2009.

Since then I have been writing this novel - my first foray into fiction. Since then I have aged 5 years. Since then I have developed some challenging health issues. Frankly, I read all of your posts about the things you are doing to promote your books and want to run away screaming.

I still haven't decided whether to try the agent route again, solicit small publishing houses, or cut to the chase and self-publish once again. Can I just find someone to do this part for me?


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