I am enjoying revising my manuscript. I guess I'm been at this writing thing long enough (since 1999) that I've learned to turn away from those negative voices inside my head. Or I talk back to them, whereas before they would simply take me over. I'm sure you know the voices I'm talking about: "Who are you to think you can do this?" Or, "That's just crap." Or, "Oh come on now, really?" Or, "You'll never be good enough so you might as well give up."
Here are some ways I deal with these voices:
- I imagine them facing away from me so the voice and message is not directed at me
- I tell them how they feel might have value but I can't listen now
- I yell at them to shut up and leave me alone
- I allow the message and the resulting negative feeling to stop me from writing. But this feels terrible when it happens, so I am learning to not give in to the negativity.
- I tell them what they are saying maybe true but I'm going to keep writing anyway.
- I politely ask them to leave.
I'm turning 65 in April. I no longer feel I have time to allow my insecurities to keep me from doing the things I am passionate about. And this novel is one of the strongest urges I have ever encountered. The voice of the book came to me in 2009 while I was vacationing in Ireland and Scotland and hasn't left me since. It is the voice that said, "Tell my story." Thank goodness, its voice is louder than these others I am talking about.
How about you? How do you deal with the voices inside your head?