Do you ever agree to do something, then wish you hadn't? This could be akin to learning to say no, but it has a different feel to it. Saying no right away means you are very clear this is not something you want to do. There is no doubt, or even if you do have mixed feelings, saying no is still the right thing to do.
But what about when you've committed, either to yourself or to someone else. Let's say you agree to help a friend move. You set aside a few hours, or a day--whatever. Then, in the midst of everything, you find your energy lagging, or your mind is on the ten million other things on your to do list. You might even get cranky. Or you promise yourself you are going to exercise no matter what, but the day flies by and you do all sorts of other things on your to-do list and exercise doesn't happen. What are you to do?
This happened to me this weekend. I think, with hindsight, I over-committed myself by giving both Saturday and Sunday. My hubby and I were in the midst of figuring out computer issues in our household--whether to purchase a new one, get the old one fixed, etc. Then we had software problems, trying to download software from a computer with Windows XP onto a computer with Windows Vista, ay yay yay. We couldn't complete one thing without having to leave to help our friend. By the time we got home, we were tired and cranky. By 9:00 pm, we had the software issue resolved.
The whole episode got me thinking about commitments and when it is okay to break them and when it is important to honor them. I have always been someone who tries to do what she says she's going to do when I said I would do it. And that makes me feel good about me. But as I get older, I'm beginning to think it's okay to say, ya know, I said I'd so such and such, but I don't really think I can. I'm sorry.
How do you all handle commitments and over-booking yourselves?
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