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“Only one thing is more frightening than speaking your truth, and that is not speaking it.” Naomi Wolf

“We are called human beings, not human doings.” Wes Nisker, Buddhist teacher

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs…(And) if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.” Theodore Roosevelt

Thursday, February 25, 2010

Celebrating while grieving

Tomorrow we go to Plainview, Texas, where hubby grew up. There are a myriad of details each of the five siblings are handling from a distance to prepare for mom's memorial service. She, too, was born and raised in Plainview, and lived there her entire life, until we brought her to Albuquerque two years ago.

But yesterday was hubby and my 14th wedding anniversary. It is a miracle to me, given my history with relationships, that we've been together that long and that we are happy--individually and together. Usually, we go out to dinner at a somewhat fancy restaurant, come home, light the unity candle from our wedding ceremony, say a prayer together, and watch the video (or portions of it) from our wedding.

This time, we managed dinner, but the video was too painful. So many people who were there at the wedding are no longer with us (even some younger folks). Also, we just weren't in the mood to whoop it up. I realized there are many ways to celebrate--quiet is okay.

Blessings,
Karen

12 comments:

Crystal Clear Proofing said...

Congratulations on your anniversary! That certainly is a reason to celebrate! Sometimes quiet celebrations are called for; but they can turn into very sweet and poignant memories.
Blessings to you.
Crystal

L. Diane Wolfe said...

Congrats! And quiet is okay.

And you'd want to watch your wedding video? Dear Lord, I don't want to revisit the fiasco that was my wedding day! LOL

Karen, when you have a chance, send me an email about my guest post on the 31st - wolferock AT earthlink.net

Cyndi said...

Happy Anniversary!!

Joanne said...

Happy Anniversary to you and yours. I'm with you, and Crystal Clear Proofing. It seems that the sweet and poignant memories do rise from the quiet celebrations, the intimacy of small get-togethers, the ease of simplicity.

The Old Silly said...

Quiet is good, too. I agree.

Marvin D Wilson

Ann said...

Congratulations on your 14th Anniversary. Yes quiet is good.

Helen Ginger said...

Happy Anniversary! Your yearly way of celebrating sounds lovely. You'll get back to it. It'll take time, you know that, but there will come a year...

Helen
Straight From Hel

Elspeth Antonelli said...

Happy Anniversary! Sometimes quiet celebrations are the best. Treasure the past, but celebrate the present and be excited for the future!

Mason Canyon said...

Happy Anniversary. Quiet is a good way to go sometimes. Being happy together and as individuals says it all. The celebration is in your everyday life together. The next few days will be difficult but onto to each other and things will be better.

Patricia Stoltey said...

Hi Karen -- I have an award for you at my blog, so please stop by at your convenience -- just my way of passing on a warm thought...

Jane Kennedy Sutton said...

Congratulations on your anniversary! Sometimes I think the quieter celebrations are the best ones.

Elizabeth Langosy said...

Congratulations on your anniversary, Karen, and deep sympathy on the passing of your mother-in-law. Treasuring what you have and what you will achieve is a wonderful way of honoring the spirit of what you have lost.