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Thursday, February 4, 2010

HOme again

When mom arrived at the inpatient hospice unit, we were told we had a week with her, at the outside.
Well, guess they just don't know what a strong spirit mom has. Today, we were told she would probably be going home in a day or so.

She was living in an independent facility with assisted living services. Since she can no longer live alone, we decided to make a room for her at our house. We will have hospice and home health coming in every day to help me. It is the right thing to do.

It has been an emotional roller coaster to hear one minute that death is imminent and the next minute she's coming home. I'm learning to have no expectations and to make no assumptions about what anything means. Just live moment to moment and deal with what is front of us moment to moment.



Cyndi said...

I've had two experiences just like this. The truth is, they just don't know how long it will take. I'm sure she'll feel more comfortable at home with you.

Rayna M. Iyer said...

Fantastic news, Karen. All the best.

Crystal Clear Proofing said...

Cyndi statement is so true. That does not help with the roller coaster you've been riding, but you have the comfort of knowing your mom will be comfortable with you in your home.

Hospice will be of great help. When my mom was dying, they were just fabulous. Every hospice organization is different, but the one we had was not only helpful and a comfort for my mom, they were also an enormous help to my dad and me.

L. Diane Wolfe said...

That is wonderful! And you have such a genuine, caring heart to welcome her into your home.

Donna M. Kohlstrom said...

You're right...that's what life is all about...living in the moment and treasuring it!

Joanne said...

It seems she'll be so comfortable to be in your home, and I'm sure you will too. The comforts of her surroundings mean a lot at this time. It's a wonderful gesture on your part.

Jen Chandler said...

They really don't know. It's amazing how resilient the human body is, how strong willed some souls are.

Karen, my prayers are with you and your mother, your family. I know she will feel much better at home with familiar faces and surroundings. All the best, friend.


Tamika: said...

What a mighty God we serve! Angels bow before Him, Heaven and Earth adore Him- what a mighty God we serve!

Sharon said...

"This is your captain. I've turned on the seat belt sign because we're experiencing a bit of turbulence. It could get worse before it gets better, so we are asking that you stay in your seats with your belt securely fastened for the duration. Flight attendants will be available to help with any needs you may have.

"We are making a bit of a detour to go around the worst of the storm, and it's uncertain just when we'll be reaching our destination. We apologize for the inconvenience."

Karen, you are a great flight attendant, well-trained from past experience, and Mom is safely secured with unbreakable bonds of love "for the duration."

May this enDuration be filled with love, joy and peace along with all the tasks and uncertainty.

Karen Walker said...

You guys are awesome. Thanks so much for the thoughts and prayers. I feel them, believe me.
Today, when I arrived at hospice, she wasn't feeling well at all. Waiting for the doctor to see if they still intend to send her home. Oy vay!

Mason Canyon said...

The doctors have no way of really knowing. Hope she gets to come home today. Wishing you all the best with strength and love.

Elspeth Antonelli said...

What a wonderful selfless gesture for you to make. My admiration is boundless.

Helen Ginger said...

Oh, I know this roller-coaster you're on. It has slow climbs up and fast drops down. Just hang on, Karen.

Straight From Hel

Jane Kennedy Sutton said...

She sounds like one strong lady. It is nice you will be able to enjoy the time she has left by being together in your own home. My thoughts are with you as I know it is still a difficult time for you all.

Sally said...

No one knows. Appreciate each day as best you can. Conserve your strength. Take care of yourself as well as taking care of her.

Anonymous said...

Taking it moment by moment, that's the best you can do.