Welcome to Following the Whispers blog
Thank you so much for taking the time to visit. Hope you enjoy your stay. I blog here whenever I feel the need. This blog was created at the time my memoir came out, in February, 2009. Its motto was: creating a life of inner peace and self-acceptance from the depths of despair. Now, my focus is sharing this journey we call life.
“Only one thing is more frightening than speaking your truth, and that is not speaking it.” Naomi Wolf
“We are called human beings, not human doings.” Wes Nisker, Buddhist teacher
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs…(And) if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.” Theodore Roosevelt
Thursday, February 11, 2010
What's it all about
Her stomach is bothering her today. That's new. I don't know what it means. The unknown is scary. The process of dying is unknown. I don't think it matters what experts say. Each of us will have our own journey and there will be different guideposts along the way, depending on who we are and what our lives have been about.
One thing I know for sure. If and when I get to the point where I'm in diapers, bedridden, can't feed myself, and can't find the words I'm trying to say, I'm done. Mom has kept her dignity through all of this. Her spirit is always there, unfailingly. She's a trooper. I'm still learning so much from her. This time together is a gift--not an easy gift, but a gift, nonetheless. Especially since she can no longer get her thoughts across clearly. It's getting harder and harder for me to understand her.
At one point she wondered why she deserves all this attention. It makes me think why memoir is so important. Each of us, whether we are famous celebrities or not, have our lives to lead and leave our footprints in many places during our lifetimes. Every one of us has instrinsic value because we exist. We can learn lessons from everyone's life stories, if they are willing to share the struggles with us. And the victories.