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Thank you so much for taking the time to visit. Hope you enjoy your stay. I blog here whenever I feel the need. This blog was created at the time my memoir came out, in February, 2009. Its motto was: creating a life of inner peace and self-acceptance from the depths of despair. Now, my focus is sharing this journey we call life.
“Only one thing is more frightening than speaking your truth, and that is not speaking it.” Naomi Wolf
“We are called human beings, not human doings.” Wes Nisker, Buddhist teacher
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs…(And) if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.” Theodore Roosevelt
Wednesday, March 31, 2010
Guest Blogger: L. Diane Wolfe
Self-image is the cornerstone of our being. It influences our lives and determines our personal worth. For many of us though, positive self-esteem seems beyond our reach.
In my book, Overcoming Obstacles with SPUNK, I listed it as one of the Five Keys of success. I even cover the issue in my YA series, The Circle of Friends. A healthy self-image is essential if we are to accomplish our goals! Despite our doubts, it is possible to lift our self-esteem into the positive and experience victory in our lives.
We need to understand where a poor self-image originates. It comes from negative reinforcement and failure without trying again. Go back and read that line again. Low self-esteem doesn’t come from failure - it comes from giving up.
That is fantastic news! Why? Because we can’t always control success or failure, but we CAN control our behavior. WE determine when to quit and when to press forward. Now that we understand the truth, we can change our self-esteem by refusing to quit.
Quitting may be a hard habit to kick, though. How do we take charge and stop this downward spiral? We’ll need to change our thinking and reprogram our belief system. The following adjustments can set us on the path:
· Examine our associations. Eliminate or limit contact with negative people!
· Let go of destructive habits, both mental and physical.
· Let go of guilt and forgive - it only holds us prisoner.
· Avoid playing the victim card - take responsibility.
· Become aware of our internal voice - tame the chatterbox!
· Eliminate negative input and replace with positive.
· Energize and feed our mind and body.
· Realize everyone has challenges and rise above them instead of being destroyed.
· Speak success as if it were already real.
· Find balance in life - no one thing or person will make us happy.
When life beats us down, it is up to us to recharge and refresh. Taking thirty minutes to do something we are good at boosts our confidence. Spending time with someone we admire encourages our spirit. Success is all about taking small steps. Raising our self-esteem is no different.
The secret to enjoying a healthy self-image lies in building on our strengths. We need to determine our good qualities! The following is an excellent exercise:
· Write down all strengths, skills, and good qualities on one sheet of paper.
· Write down all weaknesses, bad points, and things we’d like to change on another sheet of paper.
· Examine both sheets side by side.
· Take the one with all the bad point and shred it to pieces! Enjoy the moment and really tear it into tiny pieces. Throw away or flush down the commode.
Guess what’s left? Only our good points! If we focus on our strengths and continue taking small steps toward our goal, our self-image will flourish and grow.
L. Diane Wolfe, Professional Speaker & Author http://www.spunkonastick.net/
THE CIRCLE OF FRIENDS
BOOK V … HEATHER
BY L. DIANE WOLFE
When confidence turns to frustration…
A new beginning awaits Heather Jennings. The position at Clemson means she will finally realize her dream of coaching basketball. Heather is ready to focus on her duties, using sheer force if necessary to prove her independence.
Sadly, her triumph is hampered as her father and greatest advocate lies dying of cancer. Battling her grief, she must also deal with a sister who appears incapable of responsibility or achievement. And once basketball season begins, a talented but cocky player who resembles her in every manner challenges all that remains of Heather’s patience.
Heather’s life changes when she encounters a man capable of handling her bold and feisty attitude. Straightforward and smug, he entices her to date him, and despite his gruff nature shows a great capacity for compassion. However, the last thing Heather needs is a serious relationship with a man equally fixated on work and opposed to marriage…
Release date: March 16, 2010, Dancing Lemur Press, L.L.C.
$19.95 USA, 6x9 Trade paperback, 282 pages, Fiction/YA
ISBN 978-0-9816210-5-0 / 0-9816210-5-8
“Heather deals with real life and real situations.” 5 Stars
- Teens Read Too
“Curl up onto your favorite reading spot and journey along with Heather as she seeks the balance of family and work relationships. Be prepared to be pulled into Heather’s world and you will find yourself cheering her on and wanting to scold her at the same time. L. Diane Wolfe has created amazing characters with believable attributes and flaws; making Book V in the Circle of Friends series a true gem.”
- Donna M. McDine, Write What Inspires You Book Reviews
“Even after reading the novel, I am haunted by these characters… These characters are real to me, living breathing people that I now feel like I’ve known for years. This is the power of Wolfe’s writing.”
- The Book Pedler
Described as “encouragement personified”, Wolfe’s five-book Southern-based series portrays love and friendship overcoming all obstacles. Known as “Spunk On A Stick” to her fans, Wolfe is also a professional speaker. Originally from Oregon, she now resides in North Carolina. “With a positive attitude, any goal can be achieved!” www.thecircleoffriends.net www.spunkonastick.net
Book Trailer: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cn7tSWQqdYc
Known as “Spunk On A Stick,” Wolfe is a member of the National Speakers Association. “Overcoming Obstacles With SPUNK! The Keys to Leadership & Goal-Setting”, ties all of her goal-setting and leadership seminar’s information together into one complete, enthusiastic package. Her YA series, The Circle of Friends, features morally grounded, positive stories that appeal to both teens and concerned parents. Ten years associating with a motivation training system and experience as a foster parent gave her the in-depth knowledge of relationships, personality traits and success principles. Wolfe travels extensively for media interviews and speaking engagements, maintains a dozen websites & blogs, manages an online writer’s group, and contributes to several other sites.
Links to purchase:
Amazon - http://www.amazon.com/Circle-Friends-Book-V-Heather/dp/0981621058/ref=sr_1_12?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1265066454&sr=1-12
Barnes &Noble: http://search.barnesandnoble.com/The-Circle-of-Friends/L-Diane-Wolfe/e/9780981621050/?itm=12&usri=l++diane+wolfe
Dancing Lemur Press L.L.C. : http://www.dancinglemurpress.com/id18.html
My thanks to Diane for this fabulous guest post on self-esteem, an issue I struggled with most of my life.
Do yourselves a favor and check out her books.