Welcome to Following the Whispers blog
Thank you so much for taking the time to visit. Hope you enjoy your stay. I blog here whenever I feel the need. This blog was created at the time my memoir came out, in February, 2009. Its motto was: creating a life of inner peace and self-acceptance from the depths of despair. Now, my focus is sharing this journey we call life.
“Only one thing is more frightening than speaking your truth, and that is not speaking it.” Naomi Wolf
“We are called human beings, not human doings.” Wes Nisker, Buddhist teacher
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs…(And) if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.” Theodore Roosevelt
Thursday, April 22, 2010
Yours is a voice that needs to be heard
For so many years, I found it difficult to voice an opinion. Afraid others wouldn't like me if I disagreed, I'd go along with the majority--sure, I liked the movie, song, book, whatever. Oh, you want to eat Indian food, I love Indian food, whether I did or not. A chameleon adapts to its environment, changing colors for protection.
When I began taking singing lessons in 2005, my voice was that of a little girl, yet I was 56. It was a huge piece of my healing process to identify that. As I sang in front of others, I learned about the patterns of shutting down I'd formed at age seven. Unable to tolerate being the center of attention, I became quiet, unobtrusive, if you don't notice me, I won't get in trouble.
Now I am performing in front of 20, 30 people at a time. And not just in group songs. I sing solos, which is very brave when you consider that I don't have a great singing voice. Why am I doing this?
At first I thought it was because I've always loved to sing. It soothes me and brings me joy. Now I know it's much more. It's the metaphor for what the commenter said. Yours is a voice that needs to be heard. But it's not just my voice--we all need to be heard. The greatest gift we can give another person is to listen to what they are saying--really listen and hear, not just the words, but what's behind the words, what's not being said. Ask questions to clarify and draw someone out even further.
My memoir gave voice to the pain of my childhood. The singing gives voice to the joy and contentment I've found in adulthood. My writing gives voice to all of the above and so much more.
What does your voice need to say? Who have you not been listening to? Let your voice give a shout out in the comments today.