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Thank you so much for taking the time to visit. Hope you enjoy your stay. I blog here whenever I feel the need. This blog was created at the time my memoir came out, in February, 2009. Its motto was: creating a life of inner peace and self-acceptance from the depths of despair. Now, my focus is sharing this journey we call life.

“Only one thing is more frightening than speaking your truth, and that is not speaking it.” Naomi Wolf

“We are called human beings, not human doings.” Wes Nisker, Buddhist teacher

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs…(And) if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.” Theodore Roosevelt

Thursday, May 13, 2010

Going natural

I don't know if I'm resurrecting the hippie days of the 60's or what, but I seem to be in a phase of going natural. Last year, I stopped dyeing my hair. It is white. One friend in particular, makes no bones about repeatedly telling me she thinks I'm nuts. She tells other friends about me, saying, "I have a cute friend, but she insists on keeping her hair white." Ouch. Does that mean I'm not attractive because of my white hair? Photo at the right was an in-between stage.

In our society, white haired ladies are considered old. I no longer want to buy into the culture that says only young, pretty, thin, rich, white, etc. counts. But still, it hurt when she said that. Because part of me still wants to be young and pretty. Well, that ain't happening. I'm 61 years old. I may be thinner than I've been for most of my adult life, but I still have old lady arms (skin that sags and wrinkles like elephant skin). My face is beginning to have lines and crags. And yesterday I found out that cataracts are beginning to form in my eyes.

So, if I dye my hair again to look younger, does that mean I should have plastic surgery to fix the skin on my arms and a face lift to remove wrinkles and crags. I don't think so. I opt for accepting this journey I'm on, wrinkles and all. My hubby thinks I'm beautiful no matter what. He fell in love with me when I was 183 pounds. What a gift that was--to know I was loved for who I am, not for what I look like.

I'm also taking myself off estrogen. It's about time I just allow whatever my body is going to go through, to naturally adjust. And I've stopped taking Tylenol PM to sleep. It's been two nights of waking up in the middle of the night, but I'm hoping that once my body adjusts, it will naturally sleep the way its supposed to.

So, as the old Ethel Merman song goes, "I'm doin' what comes naturally...."

How about you?


Mary@GigglesandGuns said...

Colored my hair for years and said when it became one livable color I would stop. Turned 62 last Friday and hair has been white since I was 50. Only one relative hates it but you'll have that. Most woman tell me they are envious of my courage to be natural. It wasn't particularly courageous choice. More like lazy and cheap! LOL
You look great!
Giggles and Guns

Natasha said...

I think you look great, Karen.
And natural is the way to go. Like you say, if you colour your hair to look younger, you then need to go in for plastic surgery, and where does the whole thing end?
Why bother when you look as good without going through all that falsehood?

Mason Canyon said...

Going natural is the great way to go. I'd say whatever makes you feel better, not what makes your friend happy.

Thoughts in Progress

L. Diane Wolfe said...

Keep it white! When I was bleaching my hair, I wished it would turn white one day and save me the bleaching hassel. (Yes, that's how 'blonde' I would get it!)
Of course I'm back to my natural red - and my hair is growing in a little grey.
Keep the white!

Sharon Lippincott said...

Karen, welcome to the world of Honest Hair. And skin. And body. I feel sorry for your friend. I went Honest for the first time when I was under forty and freaked out my mom, who wasn't ready to have a gray-haired daughter (it was still mostly pepper with plenty of salt). My daughter talked me into trying Loving Care ("You can wash it out if you hate it.") Ten years later I went Honest again. I'm not quite white, but I love my Adult Hair. The thick brunette main was my Childhood Hair.

Cataracts? I see better with my new Crystalens implants than I did before. I can even read without glasses if the print is average size, contrast and light good.

Skin? Elephants live a long time and have good memories with knees and elbows like mine.

We are Wise, Witty and Wonderful!

Joanne said...

I like the white, it's vibrant and has a certain energy that suits you. And you seem like you're having fun resurrecting those hippie days :)

I'm with you on staying as natural as possible. I don't dye my hair and take no medications except for the occasional aspirin. Exercise, diet and rest have done all right by me so far.

Jen Chandler said...

Karen I love it! I love that you're letting your body do it's thing and being confident to do so. I LOVE white hair! I always have. My dad's hair was white and so is my grandmother's. I'm hoping mine will be when I get older. If it is, I'm not coloring it. No way. I think you look great!
You go girl! Be yourself!

Karen Walker said...

Oh, I love all of you so much. Thanks for the validation.

Anonymous said...

Good for you. I'm not doing anything different these days. Just being me. I take something for acid reflex, but learned to control it better by proper diet so I only take a fraction of the original prescription.

Stephen Tremp

Cyndi said...

You look great and how you feel about yourself is way more important than what anyone else, including your friends or society, thinks. You go girl!

Elspeth Futcher said...

It takes an immense amount of self-confidence to be able to say 'This is how I really look. I celebrate it." I celebrate YOU!!

Anonymous said...

You are so brave for posting this. I think you look great. Keep doing what you are doing.

Vicki Rocho said...

Don't do it! White hair is very striking and (this will sound weird) I can't wait to get there. Mine is just starting to gray, so I do color it because otherwise it just looks ... dirty to me. Once it's predominantly gray/white I shall flaunt it...and so should you!

Marvin D Wilson said...

Good for you. I'm into natch too ... all the way, baby.

The Old Silly

Jemi Fraser said...

I love white hair - I think it's gorgeous! Don't cave to what others want - do what is best for you :)

Patricia Stoltey said...

I'm on your side, Karen. I stopped the hair color when I retired and I kind of like it this way. And for the sleep problem, I tend to guzzle Sleepytime, Tension Tamer, or plain chamomile tea afternoon and evening. I even spike my green sun tea with chamomile in the summertime.

Patricia Stoltey said...

Oops, I also meant to say that I love that photo of you. You look wonderful.