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Thank you so much for taking the time to visit. Hope you enjoy your stay. I blog here whenever I feel the need. This blog was created at the time my memoir came out, in February, 2009. Its motto was: creating a life of inner peace and self-acceptance from the depths of despair. Now, my focus is sharing this journey we call life.
“Only one thing is more frightening than speaking your truth, and that is not speaking it.” Naomi Wolf
“We are called human beings, not human doings.” Wes Nisker, Buddhist teacher
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs…(And) if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.” Theodore Roosevelt
Wednesday, May 19, 2010
I've spent years and years learning to manage my own "stuff." I rarely fly off the handle, unless I haven't been fed for many hours or I haven't slept in several days. Then all bets are off. But usually I maintain my center pretty well and can communicate clearly. However, even if communication is clear, issues can arise and they have to be addressed.
Yesterday was just such a day with my singing group. We'd had a business meeting last Friday to talk about our vision, as individuals and for the group. We also talked about song choices for the next program we will perform. After much discussion, we had a preliminary idea of what songs we'd consider and agreed to try them out over the next few weeks to see what works and what doesn't.
We perform at retirement communities and so our songs should be ones that folks in their late 70s, 80s and 90s will know and like. But there are also songs we've always wanted to sing that those folks may not know. Finding a balance between what we want to do and what our audience may like can be hard. Hmmm, same is true in writing, isn't it?
After this meeting, one group member had a concern about the song choices. I suggested she email the group. Another member had a negative reaction to that email. We almost lost her - she'd had a really bad day and her frustration got placed on this. This is a key member of our group. If we lost her, we couldn't do it without her. We'd have to find a replacement and that would not be easy, since we don't get paid for this and she is super talented.
What I realized is that no matter how hard you try to maintain control and please everyone and keep the peace, inevitably someone or something will happen to upset the balance. Juggling that upset is what life is all about. I am working on speaking my truth with love in every moment I am able. If I can do that, I will have overcome the major dysfunction resulting from my childhood. Remaining silent is no longer an option. What do you guys have to say about this?