Welcome to Following the Whispers blog
Thank you so much for taking the time to visit. Hope you enjoy your stay. I blog here whenever I feel the need. This blog was created at the time my memoir came out, in February, 2009. Its motto was: creating a life of inner peace and self-acceptance from the depths of despair. Now, my focus is sharing this journey we call life.
“Only one thing is more frightening than speaking your truth, and that is not speaking it.” Naomi Wolf
“We are called human beings, not human doings.” Wes Nisker, Buddhist teacher
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs…(And) if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.” Theodore Roosevelt
Tuesday, May 18, 2010
Telling the truth Tuesday - Doing what you say you're going to do
It's so much better for us as well as for those asking us to do something if we tell the truth in the first place. So, I'm learning to ask myself some questions before saying "yes." Is this something I want to do? Do I have the time? If I don't have the time, am I willing to make the time? Is it worth it for me to make the time? Can this person find someone else who can do this just as well as me? Do I need to do it despite all of the above?
Once I go through this kind of thinking, the answer usually reveals itself.
The reason I'm writing about this today is that I asked someone to read my memoir quite a long time ago. This is someone in one of the forums I participate in. It is someone who reads and writes quite a bit about memoir. They agreed. After checking once to make sure this person received my memoir, I have heard nothing from them. Truly, I believe it is common courtesy to tell someone what is happening. Either, 1) I haven't gotten to it yet; 2) I got to it and didn't like it; 3) I am not going to read it because... whatever...just communicate.
If only we could learn to share clearly and honestly with one another, without rancor, without judgment, without blaming, we'd all be so much better off. Don't you think?