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Thank you so much for taking the time to visit. Hope you enjoy your stay. I blog here whenever I feel the need. This blog was created at the time my memoir came out, in February, 2009. Its motto was: creating a life of inner peace and self-acceptance from the depths of despair. Now, my focus is sharing this journey we call life.

“Only one thing is more frightening than speaking your truth, and that is not speaking it.” Naomi Wolf

“We are called human beings, not human doings.” Wes Nisker, Buddhist teacher

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs…(And) if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.” Theodore Roosevelt

Thursday, May 27, 2010

Traditionalist or Non-Conventionalist?

For as long as I can remember, I wanted to be normal, to fit in, to be part of something wonderful. My family life growing up certainly didn't seem normal, although I didn't know that for a long time. I recently connected with an old friend from childhood who remembers my family quite well. She said she found it odd, the things my parents would say and do. I used to wish I was adopted or that I'd be adopted by another family. But the bottom-line emotion was wanting to be normal.

What I've learned over the years is that I am fairly conventional. I believe in marriage, although I'm okay with those who don't and are just living together. I go to traditional western doctors. But I also go to acupuncturists, massage therapists, and most recently, an herbalist, because I've decided to take myself off all western medications. The most challenging dilemma is acid reflux. I've been in two doses of prilosec for years. Now I'm sipping aloe vera juice and taking an herb called calamus. I was also giving some drops to put in water to help me sleep. All of the above seem to be working. This is in no way a suggestion that anyone else try these things, nor is it an endorsement to stop medications and do alternative healing.
I am just saying that is what I am doing, and so far, it seems to be working.

This seems fairly unconventional to me, and I have some degree of discomfort around that. What that tells me is that I still care way too much about what others think of what I am saying, thinking, feeling, doing. Oh well, progress, not perfection, right?

How about you?

Blessings,
Karen

23 comments:

Maribeth said...

I have traditional values with an unconventional attitude. My childhood taught me that my decisions weren't always understood or accepted because they were not the norm.
People want perfection--in themselves and others. It frustrates them when it's not there. I accept that it is not there (in them or me) and that bothers, sometimes angers, others. Being yourself isn't as easy as the books say.
Keep smilin' and remember you're great.

Rayna M. Iyer said...

Someone today had a good post on our tendency to label people, and on how very few people really live up to the lables we put on them.
Does it really matter if you are a conformist or a rebel as long as you know what you are?

And if you really look at it, the only difference between "traditional" medication and "alternate" medication is that in case of the first you pop a pill that has been created in a factory, and in the other you have something you know has been extracted from a plant (or animal). It is chemicals that make in difference in either case. Now if you tell me you use an amulet, I would wonder!

Mason Canyon said...

I think we're all a little conventional with a few twists that make us individuals. Nothing wrong with that.

Mason
Thoughts in Progress

Ann said...

If it's working, then it's good! That is really all that matters. Western medicine is wonderful, but can be a little over obsessed with medications. Oh and as for normal, what is normal? Been searching for it for years!

L. Diane Wolfe said...

Some things I'm very conventional (and conservative) about, some things I'm not.

Joanne said...

Yes, progress not perfection. Always growing, changing, learning. I think the question, traditional vs non is a little too black and white. Life is more about choices that blend us into our unique selves, rather than leaving us in one category, perhaps.

KarenG said...

I like the idea of progress not perfection. i think that's a healthy attitude. And doable.

Jane Kennedy Sutton said...

I’m still trying to figure out what normal is!)

Helen Ginger said...

I think what you're doing is wonderful. It's brave, smart, and bold. Mind you, I've not tried alternative medicines. I'm not brave, smart and bold. But seeing you do it is encouragement to perhaps try such things.

Helen
Straight From Hel

Elspeth Antonelli said...

The need to 'fit in' seems to be a universal one. Very few people are comfortable with standing alone, away from the crowd and stating "This is me. Adjust." I think we all learn (sooner or later) to be comfortable in our own skins and our own decisions.

Karen Walker said...

Yeah, figuring out what normal is is a waste of time. I don't think it exists. So far, the herbs are doing fine. We'll see...
Karen

Jemi Fraser said...

I think I'm a bit of a mix. I think most people probably are. I know I have very traditional values - but I don't approach many things in a conventional method. :)

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