Welcome to Following the Whispers blog
Thank you so much for taking the time to visit. Hope you enjoy your stay. I blog here whenever I feel the need. This blog was created at the time my memoir came out, in February, 2009. Its motto was: creating a life of inner peace and self-acceptance from the depths of despair. Now, my focus is sharing this journey we call life.
“Only one thing is more frightening than speaking your truth, and that is not speaking it.” Naomi Wolf
“We are called human beings, not human doings.” Wes Nisker, Buddhist teacher
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs…(And) if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.” Theodore Roosevelt
Friday, September 24, 2010
More on letting go
Growing up in the household I did, where chaos, fighting, and anger reigned, I desperately wanted and needed to control my environment. So we assume responsibility for things that are not ours, like wanting to fix my parents' bad marriage, thinking it was my fault in the first place.
Learning what is my responsibility and what isn't has been a lifelong lesson. And taking on responsibility for others only leads to grief and heartache. We're responsible for our children's health, well-being and safety, but the ultimate goal is to teach them how to be responsible for themselves. Knowing when to let go is key. I am hereby letting go of assuming any responsibility for anyone's life but my own. I will put into practice being the most loving Karen I can be with friends and family. That's all any of us can do.
What are you holding on to? Is it time to let go?