Welcome to Following the Whispers blog
Thank you so much for taking the time to visit. Hope you enjoy your stay. I blog here whenever I feel the need. This blog was created at the time my memoir came out, in February, 2009. Its motto was: creating a life of inner peace and self-acceptance from the depths of despair. Now, my focus is sharing this journey we call life.
“Only one thing is more frightening than speaking your truth, and that is not speaking it.” Naomi Wolf
“We are called human beings, not human doings.” Wes Nisker, Buddhist teacher
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs…(And) if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.” Theodore Roosevelt
Tuesday, September 14, 2010
Telling the truth Tuesday - Letting go
When you carry those behaviors into adulthood, it makes for a very unhappy existence. One of my most favorite slogans from the 12-step programs is Let Go and Let God. When I first heard it, I didn't have a clue what it meant. It literally took years for me to understand what letting go means and even more years to be able to do it. Letting go means you are only responsible for your own thoughts, feelings and behaviors. What anyone else thinks, feels and does is none of your business and certainly not in your control. We can only change ourselves.
I've needed to remind myself of this crucial life principle. I can't change the health issues of those around me. I can't fix them. I can't change how they deal with these issues. I have to let go of those needs in me and accept that this is their journey and it will evolve as it needs to for them. I can only stand by in love and support and share my experience, wisdom and strength as needed. I may wish things to turn out a certain way, but I have no control over whether that happens. I can only take steps to make it so.
Today I am choosing to let go of my desire to control people and things around me. What might you let go of?