Welcome to Following the Whispers blog
Thank you so much for taking the time to visit. Hope you enjoy your stay. I blog here whenever I feel the need. This blog was created at the time my memoir came out, in February, 2009. Its motto was: creating a life of inner peace and self-acceptance from the depths of despair. Now, my focus is sharing this journey we call life.
“Only one thing is more frightening than speaking your truth, and that is not speaking it.” Naomi Wolf
“We are called human beings, not human doings.” Wes Nisker, Buddhist teacher
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs…(And) if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.” Theodore Roosevelt
Friday, October 1, 2010
Awareness, Acceptance, Action
What this slogan taught me is that before I can do anything about a particular problem or issue, I must first become aware of it. That means doing some soul-searching. For example, with my 89-year-old friend for whom I am now doing some caregiving, I needed to really discern whose responsible for what regarding her caregiving. As her confused state disappeared and her mental functions appeared normal, I became aware that I was trying to control and fix her and that just isn't my job.
The second part of the slogan is acceptance, which is not resisting or trying to change the situation as it is. My friend did not want me involved in her finances beyond a certain level, and even though I feel she isn't doing enough to ensure the care of her handicapped, dependent adult daughter, I had to accept my friend's wishes. That doesn't mean I have to like it, but I have to accept it.
Lastly, comes action. Moving towards action before becoming fully aware and accepting a situation often means disastrous consequences. Once I accepted what is, I became clear about my own role and was able to step back and see that I was operating in old behavior mode, trying to control a situation that isn't mine to control and isn't possible to control anyway. Then I could utilize another favorite slogan, Let Go and Let God.
Awareness. Acceptance. Action.
What might you not be aware of or not accepting?