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Thank you so much for taking the time to visit. Hope you enjoy your stay. I blog here whenever I feel the need. This blog was created at the time my memoir came out, in February, 2009. Its motto was: creating a life of inner peace and self-acceptance from the depths of despair. Now, my focus is sharing this journey we call life.

“Only one thing is more frightening than speaking your truth, and that is not speaking it.” Naomi Wolf

“We are called human beings, not human doings.” Wes Nisker, Buddhist teacher

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs…(And) if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.” Theodore Roosevelt

Friday, November 5, 2010

Timing and Unexpected Opportunities

As many of you know, I belong to a singing group called Sugartime. We perform at retirement communities, health fairs and other special events. One person in our group was presenting problems - difficulty learning and retaining the choreography, voice not blending well with the other three in group songs. We knew we couldn't take our group to the next level with these issues. We kept trying to fix it, but things weren't changing, so I had lunch with her the other day and said we needed to make some changes. She could sing two solos with us, but could no longer participate in the group numbers. It was a very hard thing to do, because I have been on the receiving end of that kind of communication and had no desire to hurt someone in that way.

She said she'd been feeling the frustration as well and needed to make some changes in her life. On Tuesday of this week, she called and told us she was going to withdraw from Sugartime and that it was the right choice for all concerned, including her. We are sad, but relieved. One hour after receiving that phone call, another member of our group received a call with an opportunity for Sugartime to sing three songs at the Mayor's State of the City address at Albuquerque's convention center. It is an entree into all sorts of potential opportunities for gigs at other city events, as well as business events, since the Chamber of Commerce will be there. We are to sing the National Anthem and two other songs in front of 250 people.

I couldn't help but feel that by speaking my truth, as difficult as that was, to the one member, it shifted the energy so that we could move more towards what we are wanting to do. This opportunity may have presented itself anyway, but it would have been a more complicated situation if the letting go hadn't happened first.

Do you believe in coincidences?


Vicki Rocho said...

What a hard thing to do -- how did you get the job of delivering the news? Glad everything worked out, though, And good luck with the State of the City event!

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

I'm sure it was difficult, but you obviously handled it well since she recognized the problem and withdrew on her own. Hope the new gig leads to big opportunities!

Gail said...

The situation seemed to be handled well by all.

Some people believe there are no coincidences.

Mason Canyon said...

Sounds like it worked out well for everyone. Best of luck with the State of the City singing.

Thoughts in Progress

Joanne said...

That's a tough question, coincidences. It makes me wonder if on some level, sometimes even unaware, we don't make choices along the way aligning a situation. I'm more inclined to think that if we really dig beneath the surface of events, we'll see the path that led up to it.

And congrats on your new gig! Very exciting stuff, wishing you the best, with many encores :)

Jules said...

Yes I do believe in them. But I think this more a tough lesson in honesty really is the best policy. :)

Congrats on the gig, knock 'em dead. :D
They could have given you something easier than the National Anthem, though.
Jules @ Trying To Get Over The Rainbow

Mark David Gerson said...

I want to hear how the gig went!

Ellen aka Ella said...

Tough call, but it sounds like it was meant to be!
Keep us posted on how it all goes; Very exciting!

Karen Walker said...

Hi everyone,
I couldn't connect to any websites this morning, so I took myself to the movies. Sorry I didn't get to visit any of you, but I'll try to make it over the weekend.
The gig at the Mayor's address went very well. It was a blast singing in front of 250 people, although they were yakking while eating their lunch while we were singing. It was great experience for us, however.

L. Diane Wolfe said...

Glad it went well! Hope it leads to many new opportunities, Karen.

Sharon Lippincott said...

How exciting! And yes, I do believe in synchronistic coincidences. Interesting that the mayor's office selected you on such short notice. Perhaps another group canceled? Who cares? Great show, and powerful lesson.