Welcome to Following the Whispers blog
Thank you so much for taking the time to visit. Hope you enjoy your stay. I blog here whenever I feel the need. This blog was created at the time my memoir came out, in February, 2009. Its motto was: creating a life of inner peace and self-acceptance from the depths of despair. Now, my focus is sharing this journey we call life.
“Only one thing is more frightening than speaking your truth, and that is not speaking it.” Naomi Wolf
“We are called human beings, not human doings.” Wes Nisker, Buddhist teacher
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs…(And) if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.” Theodore Roosevelt
Wednesday, April 13, 2011
A-Z Challenge: K - Keep the Focus on Yourself
Keeping the focus on yourself doesn't mean become self-centered, self-absorbed and narcissistic. It means focus on on how you feel and don't try to figure out anyone else. It doesn't mean ignore those around you who are in pain, it means pay attention to your own needs and don't overstep your bounds. It doesn't mean forget about what you promised someone else you'd do, it means paying attention to your own limitations and honoring them. If you promise something, make sure you aren't damaging yourself by accomplishing it - think it through before agreeing to do it. But if you did agree and you find you can't follow through, be honest with yourself and the other person. Re-negotiate the terms if possible.
Since I didn't learn living lessons from my folks, the slogans helped me tremendously. By keeping the focus on me, I don't lose myself the way I used to. And I can be much more present for those in my life who love and need me.
How about you?