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Monday, April 18, 2011

A-Z Challenge: O - One Day at a Time

Probably, my favorite slogan of all from the 12-step programs is One Day At a Time, because what this teaches me as that worrying about the past or the future is a waste of time and energy. I can't do anything about either one. All I really have is this one moment in time. And yes, sometimes I chunk it down to one minute at a time. Because if I'm worrying about what is going to happen five hours from now, I'm not focusing on what's right in front of me.



Claudia Moser said...

One day at a time--this is enough. Do not look back and grieve over the past for it is gone; and do not be troubled about the future, for it has not yet come. Live in the present, and make it so beautiful it will be worth remembering.

Tabitha Bird said...

Yes yes YES!!!

I try to remember this. I try to practice living in the moment. When I feel myself getting stressed it is usually because I am thinking about something that hasn't happened or has already happened. Silly really :)

And THANK YOU for adopting me :) Huge hugs to you then 'Mom'
I value your wisdom and look forward to coming here to 'listen' to what life has taught you or is teaching you. I learn so much :)

welcome to my world of poetry said...

I love this outlook on life beacause as you say the past is gone the future we can't do anything about and we have to enjoy the present.
If more people remembered this there would be less miserable peole in the world.

sema said...

A beautiful reminder to 'Live this moment'.
Thank you Karen for visiting my blog,Expressive-Impressive.
I got to visit your inspiring blog in turn and also start following your wise words.


Odie Langley said...

It was also a song I loved to sing at the rest home services I was involved in many years ago. I sent it to my wife who worries way too much about everything. Thanks

Jennifer Shirk said...

Yeah, I like this too. It's always best to keep it simple and take one day at a time. :)

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

I tend to live one day at a time, but I think a lot of guys do. Hurts our brains to go too far into the future and we can't remember what we did yesterday!

Paul Anthony Shortt said...

Absolutely. The only moment is right now, so do what you can in this moment, bit by bit.

Karen Walker said...

Claudia, I love that addendum, make it so beautiful it's worth remembering.
Tab, I've always wanted a daughter - nice to have one now.
Yvonne, amen to that sentiment.
Sema, thank you so much.
Odie, love to see the lyrics on that one
Jennifer, yup yup yup
Alex, lucky man. My hubs is like that, too.
Paul, yes, it's the only one we have and then it's gone.

welcome to my world of poetry said...

Thanks for the comment, very much appreciated as always.

Liz Fichera said...

Well said. Stopping to smell the roses--something I struggle with every day.

Angela Felsted said...

In my case, one day at a time works better with a schedule. :)

Melissa Sarno said...

I definitely like that motto. You can only do so much, so you might as well take things as they come :-)

Pixiebaby said...

Great post! Living in the present is excellent advice because what you said is true. The past is over and if we worry too much about tomorrow, we miss out on today.

Darlene said...

Very good advice.

L. Diane Wolfe said...

I think my life is too much of a rush right now. I need to live a little in the moment.

Talli Roland said...

This is one that I really need to work on! Thanks, Karen -- I'm loving all your wisdom these days!

Karen Walker said...

Yvonne, my pleasure
Liz, yes, smelling roses is a good thing
Angela, without my daytimer, I'm lost
Melissa, yes
Pixiebaby, I don't want to miss a single moment - I'm trying so hard not to waste time
Darlene, thanks
Diane, yes, sounds good to me
Talli, Thank you for that.

Ann said...

To follow that philosophy would make life so much more enjoyable. As you say, what has gone is gone and what is to come has yet to happen. Live in the moment.

Susan Flett Swiderski said...

Breaking challenges into one-day-at-a-time packages makes them so much easier to manage. Whether it's trying to break a bad habit or trying to instill a good one, if we only concentrate on this single day today, it isn't nearly as overwhelming.

Kit Courteney said...

Thank you for your comment.

You have a wonderful blog and your 'O' is terribly inspirational! :)

Chrysti H said...

Hi there. Thanks for stopping by my blog. :)

I can definitely agree that taking it one day at a time... sometimes even one step at a time is really all there is to be concerned about. Thanks for sharing!

Manzanita said...

So wise and such good words to live by. A tiny post but every word is a punch. A post to remember.
Wanna buy a duck

K.C. Woolf said...

Another wonderful reminder. Thanks, Karen! :-)

Katherines Corner said...

yes, one day at a time. always, after all that's all we get. Hugs and I hope you'll stop by and enter my latest giveaway to win a gorgeous dress!

Julie said...

Beautiful post as always, Karen. This is something I always have to work on, thanks for the inspiration!

Karen Walker said...

Ann, yes it's all we really have anyway
Susan, yes, yes, it's true
Kit, thank you so much
Chrysti, you're welcome
Manzanita, sometimes tiny is better - thanks
KC, you're welcome
Katherine, thanks, I'll stop by
Jules, thanks - hope you're doing better

Debbie said...

Karen, thanks for stopping by my blog and commenting! I love this A to Z challenge I've met some really great writers through it..

Loved your post, its so true I try to remind myself this all the time.

Jo Schaffer said...

So, so, so TRUE. (=

Plain Jane said...


septembermom said...

It really is the best advice to get us through all our challenges and troubles. Thanks for the reminder. Have a great day!

Nicole Mc said...

This is my mantra!

Sharon K. Mayhew said...

I need to copy this one down and hang it where I can read it every day...Nice one, Karen!

Better is Possible said...

Sometimes a day, sometimes an hour, sometimes a step and sometimes a breath at a time. Thanks for the reminder.

Jack Edwards Poetry said...

Brilliant philosophy. Definitely works.