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“Only one thing is more frightening than speaking your truth, and that is not speaking it.” Naomi Wolf

“We are called human beings, not human doings.” Wes Nisker, Buddhist teacher

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs…(And) if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.” Theodore Roosevelt

Wednesday, April 20, 2011

A-Z Challenge: Q: Quiet, please!

Quiet is such a hard commodity to find in our society. Everything makes noise. And if there isn't external noise, my internal voices are screaming at me. To find quiet, to really be still, is an art and a true gift.

I am lucky I work at home while my hubs still goes to a job. My only companion is our dog, Buddy, and unless other dogs in the hood are barking away, he's pretty quiet. I live in a quiet community as well. I don't hear car noise and my neighbors are all still working, so during the day it's quiet here.

I can't write if music is on. I start singing and it distracts me. And classical music puts me to sleep.
I'm getting to the point where I don't even want the television on, because it is addictive and hypnotic. I'd much rather read in peace and quiet. This is an issue when hubs is home, because he doesn't read much and likes the TV on.

Do you manage to find peace and quiet in your world?
Do you need it?
Or does the noise and chatter of life inspire you?


Odie Langley said...

My only quiet time is very early in the morning. I get to work at least 3 hours early. That gives me the quiet to think, finish the day's schedule and concentrate on my blog friends without interruption.

Paul Anthony Shortt said...

Silence typically makes me feel a bit unsettled. I need some music on in the background, especially while I write.

Vicki Rocho said...

I can work with music, I usually do Pandora as opposed to selecting any particular artist. I cannot work with the TV on, though. I get sucked into the stupidest shows.

fantasy queen said...

Music gets distracting sometimes when i write.
i've mastered the act of blocking out the sound from the tv when i read.
i've trained myself to work in both noisy and quite environment.
But i'd rather have the quite.

Matt Conlon said...

Hey, thanks for stopping by recently! I'm trying to make it out to all the commenter's sites and I'm a little behind!

I work from home too, and love the quite times I get, though I have a 20 month old, and a 5 year old who comes home at 3, so quiet is frequently interrupted!

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Anonymous said...

Sometimes I long for quiet.

I do like to write with music playing, though.

welcome to my world of poetry said...

A good post. I can usually find quietness whilst listening to a relaxation cd. The peace and traquility is wonderful.

Karen Walker said...

Odie, sounds like you've got a workable plan for quiet time.
Paul, unsettled? Hmmm.
Vicki, me too with the TV. It's ridiculous.
FantasyQueen, that's great you could train yourself to tune things out. That's hard for me.
Matt, thanks for the visit. Having little ones is a whole different ballgame. Just have to find those moments when you can.
tbdiamond, I'm finding the older I get, the more quiet I need.
Yvonne, thank you. Yes, relaxing cd's work for me as well.

Laura Eno said...

I love quiet, especially while writing. The sound of water running in the pool is a nice, white noise for background.

Pixiebaby said...

I am fortunate enough to live alone and also in quiet surroundings for the most part. I've always needed quiet time to function properly and probably always will. Constant background noise sets my whole being jangling and eventually I have to make a getaway, so my current living arrangement is perfect. :)

Helen Ginger said...

I'm like you in that I need quiet. It's not easy to come by at my house, though, since my husband offices upstairs in the loft. And he is constantly on the phone. I don't listen to music when I work, but sometimes I'll put on the headphones just to block out his voice which carries throughout the house.

welcome to my world of poetry said...

Thanks for the comment, that is a coincidence you singing the song.

Karen Walker said...

Laura, yes, the sound of water is so soothing.
Pixiebaby, your living situation sounds ideal
Helen, when my hubby works from home I have the same problem - never thought of headphones - thanks
Yvonne, yes, it is.

Anonymous said...

Since you are a singer, I can see why music would be distracting to you! If I have been around a lot of people for a period of time I do need quiet to re-energize. Otherwise I do like background noice such as music.

Sa said...

Thanks for stopping by the choc blog. Great to find you

Lynn said...

If I can get the city of blaring sirens and under-serviced rattling buses to stop long enough, I tend to have a problem quieting the thoughts in my own head! You're absolutely right, it's an art form!!!

Oregon Gifts of Comfort and Joy said...

I can still work with background noise, but I am sitting here now with the only noise being the clicking of my keyboard and the hum of the heater and computer fan. It is so nice to have quiet. I can still read with the t.v. on (I used to do that effortlessly, and when my hubby is on, the t.v. is on), but am trying to use reading as my escape now. There is usually too much noise around, and in some ways noise seems like multitasking for the mind.

Kathy M.

Vanilla Mama said...

It is so hard for me to be quiet - the sound of silence can be deafening! Thanks for a lovely post.

Anonymous said...

Do you manage to find peace and quiet in your world?
To answer your question, I take out my hearing aids. :-) Then the world gets really quiet.

We've just had a big storm with tornadoes. There's no way I would hear the warning siren without my hearing aids. Of course, I don't wear to bed.
Here's hoping tornadoes only hit here during the day or when my husband's home.

MM the Queen of English

Marjorie said...

Quiet? quiet? does...not...compute

Karen Walker said...

Lynn, yes, I have lyrics in my head all the time without music even being on.
Sa, right back at ya.
Lynn, when I lived in NYC it was impossible.
Oregon gifts, yes I can tune out the TV to read as well
Vanilla Mama, there is nothing like the quiet of nature and yes, the sound of silence can be deafening, especially if we're not used to it
Queenofenglish, lol, made me smile. Good luck with the tornadoes. Pretty scary
Marjorie, I get it!

Kris Yankee said...

I need quiet at least once a day. I spend most of it without other humans around (the two dogs are, but they sleep a lot). Once my boys come home, I forget how much I was enjoying the quiet. When I write, I need to have music blaring in my ears. For some reason, it helps me keep on track with the story. When I edit, it has to be quiet, or somewhat quiet. Distraction is easy for me these days - must be my age.

Ann said...

I need quiet time. I become very disorientated if subjected to constant noise. I agree with you about the telly too. It is additive. For me classical music is soothing.

Randi said...

I can't write with music playing. I have a habit of imagining dances and ice skating routines in my head while music is on, so that interferes with my writing process. I definitely need quiet surroundings when I write. Nice blog you have here!

L. Diane Wolfe said...

You're right - total peace and quiet is almost impossible to find these days.

K.C. Woolf said...

I need peace and quiet to write as well, which is one of the reasons why I often write at night.

Elizabeth Spann Craig/Riley Adams said...

Not much quiet in my world right now, so I've tried to adapt!

Jennifer Gladen said...

I love the quiet. I love it when I'm writing because I can focus more. My favorite quiet time is when I am doing spiritual reading. It is so peaceful.

Jack Edwards Poetry said...

I love to write in complete silence. But being cooped up I a small flat with my girlfriend and writing mainly on public transport I find little time for quiet. If I feel stuck for ideas I sometimes take a walk, that normally clears my head of all the clutter.

Another great post.

Lisa said...

Sometimes I feel like I have the attention span of a gnat! I need the silence in order to process anything...music has a place for me, but if I'm doing something creative, I like the quiet to be fully engaged.

Great post!

Amy Brantley said...

I need quiet when I write and then again I don't. Sometimes it's nice to have a bit of background noise, but I certainly get more work done when everything is silent.

Karen Walker said...

Kris, it's hard to make everything the way we need it to be to get certain things done, isn't it?
Ann, yes addictive is the right word for the "telly"
Randi, great image of you creating ice skating routines - and thanks for the compliment.
Diane, I'm happy to find moments.
KC, yes we have to do it when we can
Elizabeth, you are the most adaptable writer I know!
Jennifer, sounds wonderful
Jack Edwards Poetry, it's great you can find solutions. And thank you.
Lisa, thanks
Amy, thanks for the comment

Anonymous said...

I think everyone needs quiet at times, whether they know it or not.

Jules said...

WOW, I've been gone too long. Look @ all of those new peeps. :)

Exactly what I have been searching for quite, the internal sort. I do however find great solace in music though.

You do remember me, right?
Jules @ Trying To Get Over The Rainbow

Tracy Jo said...

I love this and so agree with Simona. I didn't realize it but with all the "noise" in my life it was like I was a pinball bouncing around a machine. I need and love my quiet time. My writing is best when it is and I am a better person when I get it. Great post!

Darlene said...

I like quiet times more and more. I get too distracted when tv or music is on. I can only pay attention to one thing at a time. My dad however, can read, have the tv on, and listen to the radio all at the same time...and he knows what is going on for all three.

Karen Walker said...

Simona, hey there, nice to see you come out of lurking mode and you are so right!
Jules, you are unforgettable - glad to see you here
Tracy Jo, ditto for me
Darlene, your dad must be amazing.

Anonymous said...

Hi Karen,
Thanks for stopping by and commenting on my blog. We must be on the same wavelength as I also wrote about my love of the Quiet, as I'm sure lots of other writers did also. :-) By the way, which post of yours were you referring to when you left your comment about P is for Pause and Reflect?