Welcome to Following the Whispers blog
Thank you so much for taking the time to visit. Hope you enjoy your stay. I blog here whenever I feel the need. This blog was created at the time my memoir came out, in February, 2009. Its motto was: creating a life of inner peace and self-acceptance from the depths of despair. Now, my focus is sharing this journey we call life.
“Only one thing is more frightening than speaking your truth, and that is not speaking it.” Naomi Wolf
“We are called human beings, not human doings.” Wes Nisker, Buddhist teacher
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs…(And) if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.” Theodore Roosevelt
Monday, April 25, 2011
A-Z Challenge: U - Understanding
Understanding ourselves is the first step. Getting to know what we like, what we don't like, what ticks us off, what pushes our buttons. Know yourself well enough to know why you react the way you do so you can change your reactions if you need to.
Those skills give you the ability to deal with difficult people and unpleasant situations in a healthy way. So if someone says something that upsets you, or makes you angry or sad, ask for clarification, rather than jump to conclusions about the person, i.e. they're out to get me, or they don't love me, or they're trying to get me to do something I don't want to do.
I can't tell you how many times I have assumed the wrong reason someone said or did something, or guessed at someone's intentions and was completely off base. Sometimes people don't realize what they're saying or doing is hurtful and has negative consequences. Understanding can work wonders in both people in that kind of situation.
Do you understand yourself well enough to know when you need clarification or you're assuming away? I'm still learning...