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Thursday, April 28, 2011

A-Z Challenge: X - Xena - Warrior Princess

I don't like violence. That includes violent TV, movies, books. But I have to admit, I loved watching Xena--Warrior Princess when it was on television a few years ago. I've thought about why I could tolerate that particular show and not others and the reason is that there were few things when I was growing up that depicted women as completely fearless. Xena attacked whatever she thought wasn't right, without a thought to her own safety. But she could take care of herself very well, and didn't depend on anyone else for that.

Positive female role models were hard to come by when you were born in 1949. It was Donna Reed, Leave it Beaver mom, Doris Day, and the roles these women played were subservient to the men in their lives. The women's movement changed things tremendously, but that's a whole book rather than a blog post. Suffice it to say, by the time Xena came along in the 1990s, I was aware that women could be powerful. But fearless - not so much.

I can't say I am fearless, but I am less likely to not do something because I am afraid.
What about you?


Paul Anthony Shortt said...

I'm definitely not fearless. Sometimes I wish I were, but I guess as John Berridge said, "Bravery is not the absence of fear, but the will to overcome it."

Anne K. Albert said...

I'll push myself in some things, but never those that include downhill anything, or speed. I'm very much more a slow traveller on this earth. And I loved Xena, too, although hubby loved her more! ;-)

Joanne said...

If I'm afraid to do something, or wary of a situation, I'll scope things out first, but will listen to a nagging fear that won't subside. I think it's part of our gut telling us something.

Hilary Melton-Butcher said...

Hi Karen .. I don't like horror movies, and I'm aware enough to try and avoid difficult situations .. as Joanne says .. instinct kicks in sometimes ..

Cheers - Hilary

Angela Felsted said...

Yeah, but what's not to like about Xena? She's gorgeous, caring, smart, plus she kicks butt.

Better is Possible said...

We have more power than we realize. Sounds like you know that. I continue to enjoy your blog posts!

Karen Walker said...

Paul, those are wise words
Anne, me, too - won't do anything "dangerous." And my hubby was in love with Xena as well.
Joanne, you are absolutely right. Gut instinct plays such an important role in dealing with fear. Sometimes our fear is justified.
Hilary, I can't watch horror flicks anymore. The fear just sticks with me
Angela, ha!
Better is Possible, thank you so much. Me too you.

Manzanita said...

Great X post. I think I yo yo back and forth. But at my age now, I'm back at watching the Walton re-runs. Ha Well, that's only a letter behind. :)

Laura Eno said...

I'm going to have to watch Xena, as I like strong female characters!

Talli Roland said...

Love Xena!

I try to push myself to do certain things, but I am a bit of a chicken sometimes.

Karen Walker said...

Manzanita, ha-I'm not quite ready to settle back and watch things like Little HOuse on the Prairie or anything, but cannot do horror flicks at all.
Laura, yup, she's a strong female character all right.
Talli, I'm a big chicken when it comes to dangerous athletic things like skiing, or sky-jumping - never happen, ever ever.

Liz Fichera said...

I remember Wonder Woman before Xena. That was the first show that I can remember with a kick-butt heroine. I love fearless women too. Can't say I'm completely fearless but I do love a good challenge.

Julie said...

I love that there are more kick-butt females in popular culture now, it's way overdue!

I'm definitely not fearless, but I'm working on trying to overcome fears that have held me back. Great post as usual.

Helen Ginger said...

I'm not fearless, but it seems to be that the older I become, the less fearful I am.

Brianna said...

I'm certainly not fearless, but I do appreciate women role models who are!

Odie Langley said...

Like someone else said Xena was very attractive and what's not to like. I have an anger issue when it comes to family matters mostly. If I felt one of them was being mistreated by someone I would act harshly.

Marjorie said...

Xena was fun to watch when it was on! My mom loved Hercules too. Powerful women= a good thing!

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

You're only the second person to blog about Xena - thought she's be more popular. I watched both Xena and Hurcules back in the day. Great shows!

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Darlene said...

I am far from fearless! But, working on it! Hubby liked Xena, but not because she was fearless! :)

Karen Walker said...

Liz, I didn't watch Wonder Woman - missed that strong role model
Julie, yes, it's much better now than it was when I was coming of age.
Helen, that seems to be true of me as well.
Brianna, as someone else pointed out, sometimes fear is justified.
Odie, that's okay, though
Marjorie, yeah, I forgot about Hercules - we watched that as well.
Alex, they were fun, weren't they?
Ebendy, thanks for the visit
Darlene, my hubs liked Xena for very different reasons than I did. Sigh!

welcome to my world of poetry said...

Wonderful X word. almost forgot about Xena.


Bish Denham said...

I'm pretty fearless, which has led me to do some pretty stupid things.

Xena was fun. Barbara Stanwyck played a strong woman on The Big Valley which I think ran in the early or mid '60s. I also liked Linda Carter as Wonder Woman.

Jemi Fraser said...

I wish I were more fearles - although I got a lot better once my kids were born :)

Jules said...

Personally I was partial to Kate Hepburn but I know what you mean about Xena. And they made a GREAT pinball game in her honor! :)
Jules @ Trying To Get Over The Rainbow

Susan Flett Swiderski said...

Count me as another Xena fan. I've always been one of those subservient June Cleaver clones with great admiration for assertive females, both as on-screen heroines and as friends. Am not particularly fearful, but prefer feel-good movies to ones that scare the bejeezus out of me.

baygirl32 said...

I seem to lack impulse control, if something sounds fun, I'm prone to jump in before I can talk myself out of it

Ann said...

Yay Xena...I loved that show too.

Mary Aalgaard said...

Your strength grows when you turn and face your fears.

Lynda R Young said...

Gotta love the strong female leads. We need more of them :)

Pearson Report said...

Fantastic X post - really, it was bang on!
I'm from the same vintage and agree the role models were our stay-at-home mothers or TV moms.

I'm a fan of "tough" women that still do "woman" well. Nothing like a fearless, strong woman.

Again, this was super!

Melissa Bradley said...

I loved Xena, too. She was a huge influence on my life like Lynda Carter's Wonder Woman, and Buffy the Vampire Slayer.

welcome to my world of poetry said...

Thank you for your comment on my Z post.
Thanks for your support throughtout the challenge.


Anonymous said...

I loved Gabrielle ,she the only reason i watched the show;Love me some Renee O'connor.yum-yum