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“Only one thing is more frightening than speaking your truth, and that is not speaking it.” Naomi Wolf

“We are called human beings, not human doings.” Wes Nisker, Buddhist teacher

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs…(And) if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.” Theodore Roosevelt

Friday, April 29, 2011

A-Z Challenge: Y - YES!!!!

On the "N" day of the A-Z challenge, I wrote that "No" is a complete sentence. Today, I want to talk about saying "yes," which can be equally challenging. I'm not talking about saying yes to someone asking you to do something - that part is relatively easy. I'm talking about saying yes to yourself. To your deepest, darkest desires. I was unable to even admit to myself inside my own head that I wanted to write for so many years, I'm embarrassed. And I've wanted to play the piano ever since was 8 years old. My parents couldn't afford a piano, so they bought me an accordion, which I hated. It's taken 54 years for me to give myself the gift of piano lessons.

I went to a community college after graduating high school. Then got married, had a child, supported my husband while he finished school, then supported another one while he started a business, then supported another one while he changed careers. Saying yes to me took way too long. So don't wait. Say yes to you now.

Is there something you're wanting? Come on, fess up.


Jessica Bell said...

Can I have EVERYTHING? lol

Victoria Snelling said...

Wow. Great post. And so cool that you've given yourself piano lessons. There's always reasons to not do the things we really want to - it's too extravagant, it's wasteful, it's not important enough. But I think we wouldn't deny it to anyone else, just ourselves. Happy Beltane.

Claudia Moser said...

Say yes to yourself, this is indeed a very wise statement. What I want? A child ... not so easy though ...

Odie Langley said...

A peaceful cabin in the mountains of NC near a stream. Loved your post today and the gift of piano is awesome. Reminds me of my mother around 70 in her cap & gown getting her diploma for her GED. Another wonderful moment.
Have a wonderful friday.

Jules said...

I'm wanting a bug zapper for irate drivers :) Really enjoyed your series Karen.
Jules @ Trying To Get Over The Rainbow

L. Diane Wolfe said...

You are so right. If we ignore ourselves and become drained, we can't even give to anyone else.

Paul Anthony Shortt said...

Absolutely. We have to learn to balance what we give others with what we give ourselves. My wife's always giving out to me for hesitating on even small things like buying myself a new book.

Karen Walker said...

Jessica, yes yes yes!
Victoria, thanks, and Happy Beltane to you as well.
Claudia, oh, I'll keep my fingers crossed for you.
Odie, kudos to your mom. Awesome!
Jules, thanks a bunch.
Diane, yes
Paul, it took me until very recently to be able to buy things I want that weren't "needed."

Angela Felsted said...

Such good advice.

Joanne said...

It's amazing how much more I say Yes to me now than I used to. The wisdom of living ...

sam said...

Great advice, life is about opening doors and not shutting them. Saying yes definitely does this.

welcome to my world of poetry said...

I enjoyed your post of the Y word and the fact you are having piano lesson.s I started at 4 yrs old.

I am not a lover of the word "Yes" as before my husband passed away that was the only word he could say owing to the brain cancer he had,

Have a grand day.

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

I can say yes to me! I say it to my wife all the time...

Karen Walker said...

Angela, thanks
Joanne, yes, there is something to be said for getting older and wiser!
Sam, yes, it does
Yvonne, I am so sorry - if I'd known I'd have chosen a different word.
Alex, your wife's a lucky woman.

Bish Denham said...

Oh, I need to say YES more to my writing, plain and simple.

Manzanita said...

Yes and yea! Your Yes was long over due but it burst into blossom when finally said.
It's been my pleasure to read your posts during the A-Z.

Karen Walker said...

Bish, Yes
Manzanita, me to you.

Amy Wood said...

You are so right. I think we do have an easier time saying yes to others, but not to ourselves. Great advice to keep in mind!

Pixiebaby said...

Great post Karen! I am finally learning to say yes to myself and feeling comfortable about it. Still learning how to walk this new walk, but I'm getting there. Glad you got your piano lessons! :)

Marjorie said...

I actually AM saying Yes to myself! It feels great I have to tell you!

Talli Roland said...

Fantastic advice, Karen. Lately, I've been pretty good at saying Yes. I could still be much better, though!

Laura Eno said...

Yes! Giving yourself permission to bring your dreams into the light. Congrats on taking piano lessons.

Annah said...

This is the first I read of the A-Z blogging challenge. Looks pretty cool.

And Y is for Yes! Positivity :)

Brianna said...

I want to learn to play the piano too. It's just hard saying yes to something I really don't have time for. Someday.

Anne K. Albert said...

I'm saying Yes to living my life the way I want to live it...and that includes spending a few weeks (or longer) in a warm climate next winter. YES, YES, YES!

Thanks for the great post...and the push to get me to say YES. Loved it. :)

Susan Flett Swiderski said...

I've learned to say YES to spending time writing and doing the things I want to do, and not worry so darned much about keeping the floors so clean I can eat off of 'em. (Who wants to eat off the floor, anyway?)

Julie said...

Wonderful post once again. I wasn't able to admit to myself that I wanted to be a writer either, took me a long time but I'm so glad I finally did say yes.

I'm so glad I discovered your blog through the Challenge, it's been a pleasure to read your posts. Almost to Z! :)

K.C. Woolf said...

Saying yes is easy. Saying yes to yourself ... not so much.

Great post, thank you!

Arlee Bird said...

There are so many ways to say yes as well. This would be a good acting exercise to see how many things you can express with the one word "yes".

Accordion is kind of cool--I wish I would have learned to play on. But on the other hand I probably wouldn't have wanted to back then either.
Did you play "Lady of Spain"? What's what I remember all the accordionists playing back then.

Tossing It Out

Karen Walker said...

Amy, thanks
Pixiebaby, sometimes it's baby steps
Marjorie, Yippee!
Talli, yeah, I keep getting better at it all the time.
Laura, thanks, I'm loving the piano
Annah, yes it was cool, but hard
Brianna, yes, time is a huge factor - I am grateful I have the time now
Anne, that's awesome. Yeah for you.
Susan, I know no one who wants to eat off the floor. Yeah for you.
Julie, thanks. So glad you found what you wanted to do and are doing it. And I feel the same way about meeting you.
KC, so true
Arlee, I have no memory of what I played - I was 8. Now I would think the accordion cool, but back then, nah.

Mary Aalgaard said...

Great message today, Karen. I'm a piano teacher, so I'm cheering you on. I hope you enjoy your time at the piano. It is a comfort to me - always. I've always been able to play piano, through any emotion.

Lynda R Young said...

my mum went through something similar and always put things off. So she taught me to follow my dreams and don't wait. It's a valuable lesson.

Mason Canyon said...

Saying yes to ourselves is the hardest thing to do sometimes. Great post.

Thoughts in Progress

Sharon K. Mayhew said...

That's a hard one...Lovely inspiring post, Karen.

Ella said...

Great post and message! We need to remember to put ourselves on the list of life!

Pearson Report said...

Yes! What a post!

Good on you for getting to the point in your life where YOU are actually worth thinking about.

And...the accordion - gave me goosebumps when I read this bit - my older sister was allowed to play the piano - I got the accordion. Go figure, we had a piano in the house but I was not allowed to play it! (and they wonder why I'm in therapy - really!)

Enjoy learning to play the piano.


welcome to my world of poetry said...

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