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Thank you so much for taking the time to visit. Hope you enjoy your stay. I blog here whenever I feel the need. This blog was created at the time my memoir came out, in February, 2009. Its motto was: creating a life of inner peace and self-acceptance from the depths of despair. Now, my focus is sharing this journey we call life.

“Only one thing is more frightening than speaking your truth, and that is not speaking it.” Naomi Wolf

“We are called human beings, not human doings.” Wes Nisker, Buddhist teacher

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs…(And) if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.” Theodore Roosevelt

Friday, May 6, 2011

I am afraid...a meditation

I am afraid to face the blank page everyday. Feel the fear and do it anyway.
I am afraid to see how well others did on the challenge: comparison is an act of vengeance on yourself. Stop comparing yourself do others and be the best Karen you can be.
I am afraid I will get fat again. Never happen, Karen. Your hyper-vigilance to eating healthily won't allow it.
I am afraid of growing older. What's the alternative?
I am afraid people won't like me. You're right. Some won't. So what?
I am afraid I will get to the end of my life and won't have accomplished anything significant. Not all of us are Einstein's, or Nelson Mandela's, or Oprah Winfrey's, or Eli Weisel's, or Stephen King, or whomever you feel has accomplished great things. All each of us can do in our own small spheres is try our best to make a difference.
I am afraid of losing control. Ha! You don't have control anyway. Only of your own thoughts and actions.
I am afraid of losing friends. We are all getting older. The thought of losing those closest to me terrifies me. Then don't think about it. It is inevitable we will lose people we love as we age. Stay focused on the present.

And that, my friends, is the ultimate goal. Stay focused on this one moment in time.
Are you afraid?


Paula Martin said...

Love the advice you give yourself - all very true.

Claudia Moser said...

Sometimes, but most of the times no, since I am aware that in the end all will be fine. Things have a tendency of getting clearer when you less expect and fretting does not help at all. But I do understand your points!

welcome to my world of poetry said...

Yes Karen I am afraid, I have to have hospital treatment Monday to have pre cancerous cells removed from my cervix as I am a high risk of getting cancer there, I am afraid is an understatement though I remain postive I still get those nagging doubts.

Have a nice day,

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

I think you answered all of your questions quite well!

Odie Langley said...

Very good and you covered a lot girl. Have a marvelous day.

Joanne said...

Sometimes looking too far ahead is a way of asking those scary What-if questions. I try not to do that because worrying doesn't change anything, and the what-if may never come to pass. I prefer your way of discounting the what-ifs.

Karen Walker said...

Paula, thanks
Claudia, you're very lucky!
Yvonne, sending you hugs and prayers.
Alex, thanks
Odie, you, too, dear man.
Joanne, love the old saying if you worry, why pray and if you pray, why worry. I forget that sometimes.

L. Diane Wolfe said...

I'm afraid that in my efforts to be good at many things I will master none of them.

Liz Fichera said...

This is wonderful advice, and a good reminder to stay (and appreciate) in the moment.

Jennifer Shirk said...

Wonderful words to remember! We can't control everything and we need to look at the day, moment by moment and just live.

Dafeenah said...

"I am afraid people wont' like me you're right some won't so what?"

That is my FAVORITE. I think I am going to tattoo that to my forehead so I don't forget it. Wonderful advice!! I sometimes forget to just be and create issues when there really are no issues at all.

Karen Walker said...

Diane, yes I share that one as well.
Thanks, Liz and Jennifer
Dafeenah, glad you like it.

Pk Hrezo said...

Great points, Karen! The older I get, the less I care what others think. It's all about goals and families, and we def can't make everyone happy all the time, so why try??

Loved this! :)

Jules said...

Wow, I think you covered it all with wonderful advice. But...

I'm afraid of wearing old underwear, got any advice?

Sorry just wanted you to laugh :)
Jules @ Trying To Get Over The Rainbow

Karen Walker said...

Pk, yes, that is happening for me as well. Thanks.
Jules, you did make me laugh - but my advice is to get rid of the old and get some new!

Mary Aalgaard said...

Focusing on the present and appreciating your words today.

Angela Felsted said...

Great advice. And you're so honest with your fears!

Claudia Moser said...

I know you have it, but wanted to tell you that I have an award waiting you on my blog, a well deserved one :)

Susan Flett Swiderski said...

Afraid? Not so much. We may like to think of ourselves as being captains of our own fates, but in reality, we have little control. Once we learn to accept that, we simply make the best decisions and choices we know how, and then trust our futures to the powers that be. No sense worrying about 'em, right?

S said...

Karen- I have all those same fears (and more). Thank you for sharing, but most of all thank you for countering them. You are so right on!

Sheila Siler said...

You've been given an award - check out my Friday post!

Ella said...

Nicely Done; I think we are fear the unknown, but living in the present is truly a gift~

Mojo said...

I'm a huge admirer of the bravery exemplified in this post. I like the way it's written as a duologue - the fear in all of us is only a still small voice, like conscience or hope; one note in a symphony, and it has its place I think in the orchestra of our lives.

Fear that makes us think - makes us look at a situation, at its risks and rewards - that fear is good. That fear keeps us alive. It is the fear that stops us thinking, that blinds us to the richness of the moment, that we must fight down.

I'm afraid, I know, of failing. But successive 'failures' have repeatedly shown me that 'failing' is just another word for 'learning.'

Karen Walker said...

Mary, thanks for stopping by
Angela, it's the only way I know how to be these days.
Claudia, I'll stop by later. Thank you.
Susan, you are so right
S, glad to oblige
Sheila, thank you, I will
Ella, yes, yes, yes
Mojo, what a wise comment - thank you so much.

Anonymous said...

I do not live in fear; I trust in God.


Arlee Bird said...

Sounds like you are doing well at confronting your fears. It's better than trying to run away from them and letting them terrorize you.

Now about this getting older thing!! Are we sure there's no alternative? Crap! You're probably right.

Tossing It Out

GigglesandGuns said...

Great answers, Kare.
I would probably be afraid if I took the time to think about it.

Grammy said...

Hi, Karen,
Well, yeah, most of us are afraid of things, those that could happen, (but probably won't), I guess control of what happens to us is what we fear losing, but then, we can't lose what we don't really have in the first place. We just like to think we have control. There is only one power that is, and that is our God in Heaven. He is ultimately in control of our lives Trust is the key. We think we are in control of our car when we drive. A big Ha to that one. If I could fly a plane, I think I would just go up to the cockpit and say, "here, let me do that."
By the way, I have tagged you in a meme, which, if you would like to do it, I would be honored to have you do so. It can be found on my posting today.
thanks for the really neat posting today about facing our fears. God bless you, my dear. Love, Ruby

Julie said...

Thanks for this lovely post, Karen. I struggle with many of these fears, and I loved your answers. Especially loved your answer to being afraid people won't like you, made me smile.

Thanks for being inspiring as always!

Better is Possible said...

To be accepted, to belong, to be loved are such basic and universal needs. It's comforting to know others struggle as well. Not in the sense that misery loves company, but in the knowing that we are not alone. Thanks for a great post.

Tracy Jo said...

Awesome post...love reading your blog. So honest, raw and real. I work hard every day to live in the moments - fear creeps in and I do my best to battle it. Thank you for always making me think!

Karen Walker said...

Simona, you're lucky if you never feel fear.
Arlee, sorry, my friend.
Giggles and Guns, now there's a great answer - don't take time to think!
Grammy, thanks, and thanks for the "tag" even tho' I couldn't play!
Julie, you are very welcome. Thank you for your comment.
Better is Possible, I find comfort in that as well. Thank you.
Tracy Jo, thanks so much. You have no idea how that makes me feel.


Thisisme. said...

Lovely post Karen. I'm afraid of losing friends, as I have lost several in the past couple of years. But you are so right = we have to live in the moment, and make the most of every moment we have. I have just popped over to say "HALLO" FROM Odie at The Simple Life.

The Words Crafter said...

Wow, this was deep, and I love how you answered yourself. Great, great advice!

Hope you're having a lovely weekend :)

mmshaunakelley said...

Beautifully written, wisely advised. Thanks!

Pearson Report said...

WOW! The power we give fear.

We must face fear to conquer fear. But, it is often easier said than done.
Quite an inspiring post - well thought out - well answered.

I wish you success in your dealings with fear - reads like you are on that path - stay the course.

Happy Thoughts,

Karen Walker said...

Thisisme, thank you so much for popping over. Nice to "meet" you.
The Words Crafter, thanks - did have a lovely weekend.
mmshaunakelley, thank you so much
Jenny, yes, you're right - it is about what we give power or energy to. Thank you.

Title Loans said...

I like to think that I am a jack of all trades, but master of only the task in front of me. I fear a lot of the same things and notice I can't relax because I'm constantly thinking about the next step. But it's being able to take a step back and look at it from an outside perspective that really helps me stay down to Earth and calm.