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Thank you so much for taking the time to visit. Hope you enjoy your stay. I blog here whenever I feel the need. This blog was created at the time my memoir came out, in February, 2009. Its motto was: creating a life of inner peace and self-acceptance from the depths of despair. Now, my focus is sharing this journey we call life.

“Only one thing is more frightening than speaking your truth, and that is not speaking it.” Naomi Wolf

“We are called human beings, not human doings.” Wes Nisker, Buddhist teacher

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs…(And) if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.” Theodore Roosevelt

Saturday, July 23, 2011

Virtual Book Tour - a question

Yesterday was the last stop on my virtual book tour. The tour was awesome and I'll be posting more about that on Monday, but something odd happened that I'd like to ask all of you about. I guess I assumed if I was guest-posting on 11 different blogs that somewhere along the way, I might gain some new followers. And I did gain followers on the last day, but lost a few in the middle somewhere. Has that happened to anyone else who has done a book blog tour? Did I do something I shouldn't have? Did I not do something I should have. I try to connect with each person who chooses to follow my blog - sometimes they don't have a blog. If they do, I follow them and leave a comment. I respond to comments left on my blog and on blogs where I'm guesting. Thoughts, please?


P.S. On another note, I want to thank fellow blogger Michelle Fayard http://michellefayard.blogspot.com/ for honoring me with the versatile blogger award. However, since I've done this before several times, I am going to pass on passing it along for now while I recover from my whirlwind book tour.


welcome to my world of poetry said...

I've lost followers for now apparent reason, also gain followers who have not got a blog, but I did gain one who you can only answer if you're an invited guest, I wrote to her but no reply.
Guess it could be to do with blogger , yesterday had a day when commenting was a long and painful process.


Kylie said...

Hi Karen,
I can't answer your question but just wanted to say I have enjoyed what I have seen of your book blog tour. I am attempting to write a memoir and really appreciate your thoughts/advice. I will be reading more when I have some more time. Thanks again

Odie Langley said...

Hi Karen and I am so glad you had this experience and to meet others in the field of writing must have been exciting. I have found that personally when I am reading a blog and a writer is getting in the mechanics of writing, almost like a textbook it tends to go over my head and I move on where writers reading it may be hanging on every word. That's just one viewpoint. Have a marvelous weekend.

Jennifer Shirk said...

Well, I haven't done a blog tour yet, so I'll let you know early next year...
But that is a bit odd that you lost followers. But I wouldn't gage the success of your tour on how many followers you lost or gained.
The point is you were out there making yourself visible and spreading the word about your book. Great job!

Nancy said...

Don't let the loss of a few flaky followers take the shine off your successful blog tour! Who knows why readers stop following a blog anyway? When I've stopped following a blog it's always been more about me (current interests and time constraints)than about the blogger. Put this behind you and continue celebrating your triumph!

KarenG said...

I have lost a lot of followers, esp since April, which I am assuming is fallout from all those who followed during the A to Z Challenge. I thought you had a wonderful blog tour. I look forward to your recap of it.

Karen Walker said...

Yvonne, yes, there have been issues with Blogger lately. Hadn't thought of that.

Just to be clear, I'm not upset and I am not gauging the success of my blog tour by this - I just found it odd and wondered what you guys thought.

Kylie, thanks, and if you'd like to talk more in depth, please feel free to email me.

Odie, yes, I get that - I skip over blogs that don't interest me as well. But I don't unfollow them.

Jennifer, thanks so much. And I'll look forward to your blog tour. It really is fun.

Nancy, thanks. Guess I wasn't clear that this didn't bother me so much as arouse my curiosity and make me question if there was something I did or didn't do.

KarenG, thanks. I thought I had a wonderful blog tour, too. I'm very happy with all the new connections.


Francine Howarth said...


It's a bummer when FOLLOWERS vanish!

I think you might be able to put a few losses down to people switching from blogger to wordpress and their not having reconnected, yet. I know a lot of people have been a tad pee'd off with blogger of late.

That said, some people do get the hump if you only visit their blog once in a while. I also know some people (have said outright) they might follow a blog for a little while and if reciprocal amount of replies to comments are not forth coming they'll cut you off their list.

It's the catch-twenty-two of blogging: the more followers you have the more you have to follow and the higher the number of followers you have, the less likely you are to reply on a regular basis to all of them.

Some people take lack of reciprocation as a personal slight, others accept it as their not having posted something of interest. ;)


Karen Walker said...

Francine, that really helps me understand better. That makes a great deal of sense. Thank you.

Suze said...

There are a million reasons to follow or not to follow, and I just wouldn't take it personally, at all, my friend.

Helen Ginger said...

I have to admit, I haven't paid a lot of attention to who's following me. And I realize that's a mistake. I should be visiting them. I do try to visit anyone who leaves a comment each day, then I click on random followers and go visit them.

I agree with Suze, don't take it personally. Just keep plugging along, enjoying the journey, and promoting your book. And thank you ever so much for making my blog one of the stops on your tour.

Karen Walker said...

HI Suze,
Actually, I didn't take it personally - guess I need to learn to write better. I was just curious about others' thoughts on this.
Helen, it was an honor for me to be on your blog. You were one of the first bloggers I met whom I admired very much and wanted to emulate.

Michelle Fayard said...

I didn't know you could "unfollow" anyone, Karen. I could see why someone might decide to unsubscribe due to a change in their lives but not necessarily because of anything the blogger did wrong. Like you, I might stop as assiduously reading someone's posts, but I wouldn't stop following.

Trust me; your blog tour was the best I've ever followed. Not only did I look forward to the next day's post but I learned valuable lessons for the author part of me and for myself personally.

This can be perplexing and sometimes disheartening, but then again Blogger also is buggy. And I'd rather have half as many loyal followers than thousands of "faces." Bottom line, you rock!

Karen Walker said...

Michelle, thanks so much for these wise words. I think I agree. It shouldn't be about how many followers, but the quality of the interaction. And as other authors before me have said, the more followers you get, the harder it is to keep up with all of them. You could spend hours trying to get to hundreds of blogs. It's a dilemma.

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

Glad you got a few new ones on the last stop!
Maybe people were just clearing out blogs they never really follow anyway. Once in a while I go through and if there's a blog I never visit and they have never followed me back, I stop following. (If they do follow me, I certainly don't dump them.) Don't worry about it. It's the not the total number - it's the ones we connect with that matter.

anthony stemke said...

I think your blog is fine and your virtual book tour was wonderful. Until the a-z chlnge I had few followers. Many are not commenting, but that's ok. I don't worry about numbers, just blog quality.
Some of yours may have left for any number of reasons. Please don't worry about it. You are obviously doing good with "Following the Whispers" that is more important. Do what you do best, people of your genre will appreciate it.

Karen Walker said...

Thanks Alex and Anthony,
these are wise words,indeed, and I will heed them.

Tonja said...

I followed on the last day, only because that's the first time I saw you. I enjoyed what you wrote and look forward to reading more.

Linda Austin said...

I doubt it has anything to do with you, just where that person is on their journey. Some of your tour posts have been more nitty gritty into writing, and maybe some are just looking only for inspiration and chat. Some people (like me) periodically go cleaning out their list of blogs they follow using various reasonings. I do this on FB and Twitter, too, to avoid being overwhelmed.

Jemi Fraser said...

It was a great blog tour and I think you did everything right! It must be some kind of weird coincidence...

Karen Walker said...

Tonja, thank you so much for that.
Linda, I guess I never think of doing it, so that never occurred to me. Thanks for that perspective.
Jemi, thanks, I agree, it was great fun.

Arlee Bird said...

I would have to agree with all of the above. There are a lot of good answers in the previous comments and I think losing followers is something that happens along the way just as gaining them if you stay active at trying to reach others.

Ultimately though the virtual tour is not so much about the blog as it is about the book. If I'm not mistaken, the point of a book tour is to garner interest in one's book and hopefully increase sales. If that happens then the tour has been successful as a marketing tool. And regardless of that, the response of those who followed your posts is another factor of success. To me it looks like you have a nice core of loyal followers who read what you have to say which is far more important than a whole bunch of invisible followers who have no idea of who you are and what you're doing.

I wouldn't worry much about it. You do a great job and you'll be at a strong starting point when your next book arrives on the scene.

Tossing It Out

Karen Walker said...

Lee, thank you so much. I agree with you 100% and I feel that I am in a good place with all of this.

L. Diane Wolfe said...

Sometimes you can't explain it. I wouldn't worry.

Jules said...

If someone chooses not to follow you Ms. Karen then they really don't know what they missing. :)

I'm still alive. :)
Jules @ Trying To Get Over The Rainbow

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Melissa Ann Goodwin said...

It's funny, I just was cleaning out my list today before I came here to visit! There are some blogs that seldom post, and some that really don't speak to me - and if those are also folks who don't stop by, I did make the call to stop following. It really is a dilemma, because I don't have nearly as many followers as you do, I still feel overwhelmed by my inability to keep up!