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Thank you so much for taking the time to visit. Hope you enjoy your stay. I blog here whenever I feel the need. This blog was created at the time my memoir came out, in February, 2009. Its motto was: creating a life of inner peace and self-acceptance from the depths of despair. Now, my focus is sharing this journey we call life.

“Only one thing is more frightening than speaking your truth, and that is not speaking it.” Naomi Wolf

“We are called human beings, not human doings.” Wes Nisker, Buddhist teacher

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs…(And) if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.” Theodore Roosevelt

Monday, January 23, 2012

Monday Musings

I feel like I have no reason to blog anymore. My memoir is almost out of print. Still a few copies available on Amazon. You can still purchase as an ebook on Smashwords. But I'm doing nothing to promote it anymore. And I'm not sure I'll ever finish, let alone publish, the novel I'm working on. So why blog? Most writers blog to build a platform to sell their books. That's why I did it originally. But it soon became something else. It became a place for me to share my ongoing journey towards healing. And it became a place where others share their thoughts and feelings about my journey as well as their own. I love those connections. So I guess the answer is the reasons why I blog have changed. I guess now the question is, how important is it?

How about you?



I find blogging great for a couple of reasons I can write my poetry whether people read it or not, but most importantly I love to read about other people and their lives.
Belong to the blogging family isn't like being all alone in the world.

Have a good day.

Tonja said...

I think it's worth doing for the connections.

Laura Eno said...

I don't blog much but I've met people whom I consider my family. It's all about feeling connected, I guess.

L. Diane Wolfe said...

My focus has changed since I began. I started to promote my series and I still have another book coming out soon. Now I am using it to share what I've learned along the way.

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

The connections are what have keep me here.

Luanne G. Smith said...

I think a lot of us start our blogs as a promotion tool and end up discovering it's really a way of socializing and connecting with like-minded people. I think that's okay.

Nancy said...

Just look what you've done with this post, Karen! In your gentle way, you've urged us to think more deeply about what we're doing. And we all seem to agree that connecting can be the most lasting benefit of blogging, long after the effects of promotion have hit their peak. I hope you stay with it!

Karen Walker said...

Yvonne, that is a wonderful side benefit, isn't it?
Tonja, the connections are beyond amazing.
Laura, this makes me realize even more how important the connections are, and not just to me.
Diane, yes, me, too, sharing what I've learned along the way.
Alex, and you have so many many connections.
L.G. that's a huge piece - connecting with other like-minded people.
Nancy, thanks, I'm going to stay with it for now, anyway. Thank you.

Anonymous said...

I just read your comment on my post, Karen. Heart-connected. That's what it is with blogging, I think. When I say no more blogging - because it can be a time drain if you're not careful - I think of the strong circle of friends I've made and don't want to lose touch. But the question does become, at some point, how important is it? If it's no longer for book promotion, then you have to decide what it IS for. You say it has been a means for healing for you. This is so excellent, Karen, and worthwhile. I would say, then, don't stress about it. Blog if and when you want to. But always enjoy your days in the warm and beautiful desert country where you live. Enjoy time with your husband. Enjoy Music, Dance, good books - whatever keeps that healing intact!
Ann Best, Author of In the Mirror & Other Memoirs

Karen Walker said...

Ann, thank you for this. Maybe that's the answer. Let go just a teensy weeny bit of the pressure I put on myself to maintain a schedule and keep up with other blogs and participate in blogging challenges, etc. If I don't pay attention to gaining followers and losing followers, I am much more content with my blogging experience.

Jennifer Shirk said...

I like blogging because of the connection to people. It's a little more personal than FB or Twitter.

Joanne said...

Hi Karen. Maybe if the reasons why you blog have now changed, it might help to change the focus of the blog to accommodate that? I know you are so passionate about your singing and Sugartime. I, for one, would love to see that focus, pictures of where you sing, the fashion involved, audience stories, rehearsal tales. When we're writing about something we just love, well I think it becomes more effortless.

Claudia Moser said...

Blogging is for me therapeutical, I find it relaxing and comforting. And as for your posts, I love them all, so please keep on writing!

Susan Flett Swiderski said...

Like so many others, I started blogging with the intention of establishing some kind of a "platform" for my writing. But in retrospect, even if I end up with a thousand followers, (not likely!) and every single one of them (also not likely!) bought my book (IF I ever finish the darned thing!) that's not a very impressive platform, is it?

So, that's no longer why I do it. I like people. Really, really like them. And my blog has enabled me to meet so many wonderful people ... THAT is why I do it. Plus, blogging IS writing, and I genuinely enjoy the immediate feedback, support, and yes ... friendship ... other bloggers provide.

The question remains, at what point does so much time go into blogging that the poor ol' WIP ends up growing mold? (not literally, of course ... it's in the computer) I dunno. If that happens, I may have to reevaluate. For now, blogging, in and of itself, is still a pleasure. If you don't put pressure on yourself, I hope it can become a pleasure again for you, Karen.

Karen Walker said...

Jennifer, I so agree about it being much more personal
Joanne, that's an interesting thought...I'll ponder it.
Claudia, thank you so much for that
Me, too, Susan, me, too

Arlee Bird said...

If you don't see a purpose in blogging then maybe it's time to look for one again. Don't stop at one book. Or maybe use your blog as a forum to promote something else that you are passionate about. I think sometimes we have to rediscover what moves us and reinvent ourselves accordingly. What do you want to tell people? What do you want to learn from others?

You're probably just in a slump. I get that way more frequently these days. And then I think of something I want to tell others and I'm on fire again.

Maybe blog less, but don't stop entirely. Or take a break if necessary. You still have treasures to share and we are your beneficiaries.

Wrote By Rote

Karen Walker said...

Lee, thanks so much for this thoughtful response. I have no intention of quitting blogging.I do just get discouraged every once in awhile. It's one of the gifts of blogging that there is a forum to share those kinds of feelings.

Dafeenah said...

I hope you don't stop. Your story has inspired and encouraged me and I've truly enjoyed reading your posts. Regardless of why you blog now I'm very glad you do.

Belle said...

I've almost finished reading your book. You did a wonderful job and I'm finding it very interesting. I love to blog because of the wonderful people I've met.

Melissa Ann Goodwin said...

I actually started my blog quite a long time ago as a kind of online journal for writing about yoga and life. Didn't have and didn't cultivate followers. When I moved toward writing, publishing and promoting my book, it changed to be more writerly focused. But honestly, writing and talking ABOUT writing BORES me. And I always see that when I just blog about life and stuff, people engage more. That's why I want to blog now, to chat with my friends. Sure, I plan to write more books, but I don't want my blog to be ABOUT that.

Karen Jones Gowen said...

Even though most of the blogs I follow are writers blogs, I'm with Melissa. Sometimes you have to promote your book, and it's nice to post about writing issues now and then but I mostly enjoy posts that have to do with what's going on in their lives. Blogging is my writing group and my social circle (well, one of them, I do have one or two friends outside of the internet LOL).

I wish you would write another book, Karen!

Hilary Melton-Butcher said...

Hi Karen .. love this - we all change or add to our ideas .. I agree with the others ..

Now I'm blogging I couldn't give up the friends I've made and who are all there .. the support etc -

- but one thing no-one's said specifically .. is the learning we get - those doors that open .. eg to your blog, to Ann Best's story, to memoirs ... we wouldn't get a chance to understand those ways of life without the introduction gained here.

I hadn't intentionally set out to educate myself with my own blog - but that's what it's become ... and yes originally they'd all be the sorts of ideas my mother and I would discuss, laugh about, give her stimulation for the tedious hours ahead in her life.

I will keep my blog going, but I have new ideas for the Nursing Centre and one day will convert my posts into a book, or booklets ..

So I'm not stopping .. but I love everyone's ideas - and hope to continue to see you around for many years to come and meet one day ..?

Cheers Hilary

Unknown said...

Hey Karen...it's an interesting question isn't it? I've never written a book, even though I love to write.. I admire people who have that talent..I have 'met' a few people who have become online friends, so that's one reason I keep blogging when every indication is that I should probably stop! lol!
Your posts are always informative, thanks Karen.

Tracy Moore said...

Hi Karen, you definitely have to do what is right for you. That being said, I really hope that you keep on blogging. I love what you do here! Your blog is definitely a ray of light :)