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Thank you so much for taking the time to visit. Hope you enjoy your stay. I blog here whenever I feel the need. This blog was created at the time my memoir came out, in February, 2009. Its motto was: creating a life of inner peace and self-acceptance from the depths of despair. Now, my focus is sharing this journey we call life.

“Only one thing is more frightening than speaking your truth, and that is not speaking it.” Naomi Wolf

“We are called human beings, not human doings.” Wes Nisker, Buddhist teacher

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs…(And) if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.” Theodore Roosevelt

Monday, March 19, 2012

Monday Musings: Being relaxed

I don't know why it happened, but it did. Last Friday, for the first time since I started Sugartime three years ago, I was totally and completely relaxed about everything related to doing a singing gig. In the beginning, it was having people look at me that threw me. I'd get so nervous, I'd stutter and go off pitch or my voice would crack. Then it was the equipment - I am techno-phobic so it took a very long time to understand which wires hook to which piece of equipment and what they all do. Until recently,the equipment still made me nervous because if something didn't work right after it was all hooked up, I didn't know what to do. Then there is the hauling of 14 pieces of equipment down the stairs in my house, into my car, out of my car, into the facility, setting up, tearing it down, putting it back in the car and hauling it home and back up the stairs and setting it up again.

On Friday, absolutely none of this mattered. I was relaxed as we hauled the equipment in, piece by piece (there was no cart to load it onto). I was relaxed as we set up. I was relaxed as we did sound check (which is the most challenging thing we do--trying to get all three headsets at equal volume). And I was more relaxed than ever before while singing.

All I did before I left for the gig was ask that my Light shine, meaning that I be centered inside myself and let my soul light, not my personality issues, shine through. My prayer was answered.

Are you relaxed about the things that are important to you?


L. Diane Wolfe said...

Delighted you finally hit that point in your career. I've been more relaxed lately, like there's a safety cushion behind me.

Siv Maria said...

Glad that you are learning ways to cope with stress. I relax by meditation which seems to work well for me.

Joanne said...

I try to be. I think the more we immerse ourselves in what we're doing, knowing it inside and out, helps make it a part of our soul light, and thus the relaxation follows.

L.G.Smith said...

That's a great headspace to be in. Glad you were able to let go and relax. Bet you had an enjoyable time.

Karen Walker said...

Yes, Diane, a safety cushion is a nice way to put it.
Siv, I've been meditating as well - bet that is helping bunches
Joanne, yes, confidence that I know what I'm doing is a piece of it as well
L.G. It is, wish I could bottle it and sprinkle it whenever I need it.

Talli Roland said...

Karen, I really need to take a page from your book! I'm so pleased you were able to relax and enjoy the moment.

baygirl32 said...

How wonderful! I hope to get tat relaxed soon

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

Now that I've been practicing with a few friends from church, I hope I can hit that relaxed moment when I have to play guitar in front of others.

Hilary Melton-Butcher said...

Hi Karen .. that's great isn't it - must be a wonderful feeling for you - just being, happy with where you're at .. ok, so you have some equipment - so what ..

You seem to have found your way in life - so pleased for you .. cheers Hilary

Karen Walker said...

Talli, I've got a few years on you, so you have time to figure it out!
Babygirl, me, too
Alex, ooh, I'd love to hear you play
Hilary, I'm finding my way, that's for sure

Susan Flett Swiderski said...

When I graduated high school, (back in the dark ages) one of my aunts gave me a necklace with the serenity prayer on it. I know it's considered the prayer for AA, but the words also go a long way toward helping us accept ... i.e. relax ... about the things over which we have no control.

Debra Harris-Johnson said...

Doesn't feeling good in your own skin absolutely amazing. Yes I am totally relaxed, no worries.