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Monday, April 16, 2012

Gratitude - Letter "N"

This post is part of the 2012 A-Z challenge, created by the intrepid Arlee Bird at: http://tossingitout.blogspot.com/


Today I am grateful for those in my life who are just plain "nice." I have to start with my wonderful hubby, who is one of the nicest guys I've ever known. He is very even-tempered, will do just about anything you ask him to do, willingly and with good cheer, and I have never heard him say a bad word about anyone. Come to think of it, he is the very definition of "nice." Sometimes I am not so nice. If I am tired, I can get very cranky and irritable. Also if I go too long without eating. I try not to get to hungry or tired. I am also nasty to telemarketers sometimes. I think I need to take a page from my loving husband and work on being nicer more of the time. It will affect my karma if I don't, right?

Are you nice?


Shelly said...

Niceness is such a valuable component to a successful life. I try to be as nice as I know how, even when folks aren't nice back, because it makes me feel settled and at peace.

Susan Roebuck said...

I hope I am, I try to be even when people aren't nice back, but, like you, there are times I get cranky too. I'm so sorry about it afterwards.

Claudia Moser said...

I am sure you are nice :)

welcome to my world of poetry said...

Nice N post Karen.


Joanne said...

I've found that nice gets me further along in life than not-nice. And it's contagious, too :)

Ruth said...

It's just hard to be nice all the time. Being nice is good, but sometimes being so so nice has its place too. :)

L.G.Smith said...

I like nice people. :)

Karen Walker said...

Shelley, if you can do that, you are saint-like. I have to bite my tongue a lot to not be nasty.
Susan, I always feel badly after I've been short-tempered with someone.
Claudia, I'm not sure "nice" is the adjective most would use to describe me.
Yvonne, thank you.
Joanne, you are wise and you are right, it is contagious.
Ruth, I don't think anything worth having or doing is easy.
L.G., me, too!

Margo Kelly said...

Am I nice? It depends upon who you ask! ha. My daughter would tell you that I am quick to anger, but she doesn't realize that I NICELY asked her to pick up her dirty dishes three times before I finally yelled to get her attention. :)

Bonnie said...

Gratitude! What a brillaint theme! We all need more of that in our lives.

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Bish Denham said...

I hope so. I've found being nice is a nice selfish way of getting what I need/want. And, it makes other people feel nice. A nice side affect.

Tracy Makara said...

Great N post Karen! Being nice is definitely a plus. The world would be a much better place if more people would try it. One thing I have to say though is that it also makes a huge difference to me whether someone being nice is sincere or not. If I cannot sincerely be nice about something, I at least try to be polite...and prefer to be treated as such by others.

Glynis said...

I try to be nice, but sometimes nasty slips into play!

Karen Walker said...

Margo, I think that's true for me as well.
Bonnie, you're welcome.
Bish, very true
Tracy, good point!
Glynis, me, too

SweetMarie83 said...

Your husband sounds just like my mum - she's the nicest person I know, and would do anything for anyone. She's one of those people that everyone loves because she's so sweet and kind. I definitely wish I could be more like her...I'm generally a nice person, but I have my moments when I know I should be nicer!

Patricia Stoltey said...

I try to be nice and succeed most of the time, but there are moments...when I'm hungry or don't feel very good...when being nice is a challenge. We do the best we can, I guess.

L. Diane Wolfe said...

I try to be nice but sometimes my blunt nature overrides that.

Karen Walker said...

SweetMarie, yeah, I guess I'm generally a nice person,too, but I have more not nice moments than I would like. I'm working on it.
Patricia, yeah, if I'm hungry or tired, watch out.
Diane, being blunt doesn't necessarily mean not nice.

Jessica Bell said...

LOL. I need to work on being nicer to mine too! :o)

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

I try to be nice!

Pk Hrezo said...

I do agree Karen, but do you ever get annoyed by people who are TOO nice?? I think there's a balance and too much niceness feels phony and hollow.

Julie said...

I try very hard to be nice but telemarketers do make it difficult, don't they?

Gina said...

Yeah, I'm with the big majority here. Telemarketers are just about the only group I'm tempted at not being nice. Being nice is a lot more challenging that one would think, but I keep trying. One day I'll get real good at it.

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Naila Moon said...

Yes, I think I am generally nice, at least most people tell me so. I do not think it takes much to be nice really but, maybe that is just me. ;)
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Susan Flett Swiderski said...

Yeah, I think most people who know me would say that I'm "nice." At least, I hope so. I try.

Jemi Fraser said...

I try to be nice. But there are days when I'm overtired, stressed and too busy when it's more of a stretch!

Tracy said...

I can honestly say I am nice...even if I don't like someone I am nice! :) great "N" word!

Tracy Jo said...

Karen, I am pretty nice...most people would probably say I am BUT I am just like you. I get crabby and have my moments. But hey...we are human. :-)

Arlee Bird said...

Nice is nice.

I try to be nice to telemarketers since I've done that often in my past and know how difficult and frustrating it can be. I just understand that they are struggling with something they'd probably rather not be doing and figure if I treat them respectfully they can be uplifted at least until their next call. Sometimes I do give the ones from India or other countries a hard time if they are trying to pass themselves off as someone calling from the U.S. I start asking a lot of questions until they tell me the truth or hang up on me.

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Ashley Nixon said...

lol...my bf has been receiving snippy comments cause I am stressed out!! That's what the end of school does to you though, other than that I am nice...I think. lol.

Great post!

Feather Stone said...

Nice is nice. I like to give everyone the benefit of the doubt, knowing that they are trying their best. Being human is not easy, and not easy to be always nice. I wonder about people who are ALWAYS nice, even when they are being disrespected or taken for granted. I've known a few who appear always nice; but in private show a different side. I beieve its important to be genuine and honour your feelings.

T'Laina said...

I certainly try to be as nice as I can, especially at work. A couple of people have said that they were surprised because I didn't look like a nice person - I dress like I'm homeless for the most part, have stretched ears, and have green bangs with a shaved head. But I smile at them and tell them that appearances aren't everything.

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Heather M. Gardner said...

Sometimes if we are too nice we can get taken advantage of. There is a fine line.