Welcome to Following the Whispers blog
Thank you so much for taking the time to visit. Hope you enjoy your stay. I blog here whenever I feel the need. This blog was created at the time my memoir came out, in February, 2009. Its motto was: creating a life of inner peace and self-acceptance from the depths of despair. Now, my focus is sharing this journey we call life.
“Only one thing is more frightening than speaking your truth, and that is not speaking it.” Naomi Wolf
“We are called human beings, not human doings.” Wes Nisker, Buddhist teacher
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs…(And) if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.” Theodore Roosevelt
Friday, September 14, 2012
Is there ever a reason to be nasty?
There are so many ways to be honest without being nasty. The tone of voice you use when speaking to someone makes a world of difference in how what you are saying will be received. Your intention when you speak, meaning the place you come from, also has a huge impact. If your intention is to be helpful, then why be hurtful? If, as Britney Spears said, she wanted to help someone avoid wasting 7 years of their life trying to succeed with not enough talent, then find a way to say that in a loving way. Jennifer Lopez did it on American Idol. She was honest, but loving.
I don't mean to pick on Britney Spears - I really know nothing about her, other than what I've read in the tabloids. But I don't like television programs that use hostility and downright meanness and hurt people. I've been hurt by comments teachers have made. Comments that have taken years to overcome. Comments I still live with, somewhere deep inside. I've learned not to let those feelings overtake me. I guess I don't want to see young people have to live with the consequences of hurtful comments when it totally isn't necessary.
How about you?