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Thank you so much for taking the time to visit. Hope you enjoy your stay. I blog here whenever I feel the need. This blog was created at the time my memoir came out, in February, 2009. Its motto was: creating a life of inner peace and self-acceptance from the depths of despair. Now, my focus is sharing this journey we call life.
“Only one thing is more frightening than speaking your truth, and that is not speaking it.” Naomi Wolf
“We are called human beings, not human doings.” Wes Nisker, Buddhist teacher
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs…(And) if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.” Theodore Roosevelt
Monday, November 12, 2012
Monday Musings: Getting Clear
I've been struggling with friends whom I love dearly telling me I look skinny, or like a waif, or some other comment that hurts me. Perhaps they are just not used to seeing me this way. I don't really know. But at this point, I don't really care.
I've struggled with how to respond. First, I sent an email asking people not to comment on my weight. That didn't work. It's still happening. A friend suggested something, but I couldn't remember what she said, so that didn't feel right either.
Then, after a long talk with a friend who has no issues with how I look, I got clear. What I realized is that for the first time in my entire life (and that's 63 years, folks), I like what I see in the mirror. I am truly and deeply soul happy with my body - how it looks - but especially how it feels. This is where my body was meant to be. It is home.
So, the next time someone tells me I'm too skinny, what I am going to say is, "I'm sorry you feel that way, but I am happier than I've ever been and feel great as well. Period. Nothing else needs to be said.
How about you? How do you respond when good friends say hurtful things, even if it's not intended to hurt?