Welcome to Following the Whispers blog

Thank you so much for taking the time to visit. Hope you enjoy your stay. I blog here whenever I feel the need. This blog was created at the time my memoir came out, in February, 2009. Its motto was: creating a life of inner peace and self-acceptance from the depths of despair. Now, my focus is sharing this journey we call life.

“Only one thing is more frightening than speaking your truth, and that is not speaking it.” Naomi Wolf

“We are called human beings, not human doings.” Wes Nisker, Buddhist teacher

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs…(And) if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.” Theodore Roosevelt

Wednesday, December 5, 2012

Insecure Writer's Support Group - December

It's the first Wednesday of the month and therefore time for another round of the Insecure Writer's Support Group, hosted by our wonderful blogging buddy, Alex J. Cavanaugh, http://alexjcavanaugh.blogspot.com.

If you don't know Alex, you must go meet him immediately. Thanks again, Alex, for being you and doing all you do for the blogging world.

Here goes....

Since I've been traveling, I haven't written anything on my novel. And when I returned home, I got slammed with bronchitis and a sinus infection, so writing is just not happening right now. I'm not insecure. I'm questioning whether it's even meant to be. I mean, I know I'm meant to write this book. Otherwise, why would that voice have come to me in Ireland. It's two thirds of the way done. I am probably still mulching the third and last part. I know this. Yet still I question. It doesn't help when there are blogfests that ask people to talk about what blogs they would miss if they stopped and mine wasn't mentioned once that I'm aware of. I'm not asking for sympathy here folks. It's a reality I need to look at. Perhaps what I'm doing here is just not of interest to folks such that they would miss it if it were gone. But does that mean I should stop? I don't think so.

Please please please don't respond to this by trying to make me feel better by saying you would, indeed miss my blog. That is not the purpose of this blog post. This is supposed to be our opportunity to share our insecurities and that's all I'm doing here folks. Sharing those yucky thoughts that keep me from doing what I'm supposed to do. Probably part of why I'm feeling this way is that I'm sick. But what's my excuse when I'm well?

As my energy returns, I will do what I always do. Return to the blank page and wait for the words to come. I will continue to post to my blog because it is something I enjoy doing. And I love keeping up with all of you and knowing what's on your minds and in your hearts.

So, forgive my whine today. Next month I promise to be more positive.


Yvonne's World of Poetry said...

Get well soon Karen.


Sharon Lippincott said...

Dear Karen,

So sad to hear that you got the nasty Post-Trip bug. Germs abound in the dry, dry air of planes, and travel-stressed bodies are not the most resistant.

I hear a key to your dilemma late in your post: "As my energy returns ..."

Yes. Relax and heal. Imagine what you would do if you didn't write/blog/sing/whatever. No matter how glowing your accolades, if you aren't doing it for YOU, it's not worth doing!

As your energy returns ... you'll know what to do.

Get well!

Rose Munevar said...

I can relate, and it's happened to me too. I've watched other bloggers take off with followers and mentions while I languish on the sidelines. It's discouraging but I look at it like my time just hasn't come yet. Just hang on and focus on the good :) Hope you feel better.

Tonja said...

I'm having a difficult time getting writing done in December too (and no one missed me either, which sort of made me feel like I was in high school again). I think we both should not worry about it until January and then dive back into our novels.

jaybird said...

Sometimes taking a little break, is just what the doctor ordered.
Take your time and focus on healing.

I suffer from an auto-immune disease and am often unable to write- but I can tell you this, even when I am ill, those voices never really go away. I use the time to just be still and listen. Eventually the whispers get louder and louder. And when I feel better, not only do I have a clear head, but a ton of new material to write about!

Hope you feel better soon, inside and out :)

Karen Walker said...

Thanks, Yvonne,
Sharon, my wise, dear, dear friend, thank you
Rose, sad, but it's nice to not feel so alone with my feelings, which is the whole purpose of ISWSG
Tonja, smart girl - I won't - worry till January that is
Jaybird, I am sorry - that sure puts things in perspective, doesn't it. Thank you so much.

L.G.Smith said...

Well, this is just my opinion, but I think you're simply the type of person who can't write until everything gets processed through your brain and your emotions. It's a long marinating process, and there's nothing wrong with that. Especially when it comes to endings. The longer you think it through the more meaningful it will be. And I don't think you write stuff down unless it has some meaning. My two cents. :)

And I hope you're feeling better. Blah to being sick during the holidays.

Karen Walker said...

L.G. you are a very wise woman. Thank you. And amen to being sick during the holidays.

Jen Chandler said...

Nothing wrong with a little whining every now and then! I haven't been blogging or visiting other blogs lately and I've had the same thoughts: am I doing anything on here that really matters? Sometimes, you have to take a step back and regroup. Nothing wrong with that!

Hope you feel better soon! Happy Holiday season!


Laura Eno said...

I don't think you're alone with these thoughts and the holidays, being sick, has you in a slump. Rest and it will come back to where you enjoy the story.

Lexie C. said...

Questioning is part of being human (unfortunately so is being sick- yuck!). I like to think that there are downs so that we can fully enjoy (and utilize!) the ups. Sounds like there is a third part of a novel waiting for a beautiful birth! Hang in there and I hope that you feel better very soon!
Sending writerly hugs~

E.J. Wesley said...

Oh man, I think many of us feel this way Karen. Would the Internet slow down a millisecond if we disappeared? The reality is: NO, it wouldn't even blink. However, that's not why I blog.

It's selfish, I know, but I blog to draw from other people. If I didn't have my own blog, many of the other bloggers wouldn't know I existed and would be less willing to chat with/get to know me. Basically, I do it to connect.

At first I thought I was blogging to share insights with everyone else, to give them something of value. But that didn't go very far, because I realized there were so many folks doing what I do--and doing it better.

Anyway, now I don't worry about followers, I don't worry about being mentioned in the 'best blogs', I'm not overly concerned if I lose a couple of followers if I don't post as often or participate in whatever. I just do, and I'm happy. :-)

That story will come back to you! Nice to meet you, btw. This is my first month in the IWSG.

Susan Roebuck said...

Oh, you're not feeling well :-( There's a possibility with your WIP that you've written yourself into a dead-end. Once you're feeling better, do take another look at it, you'll instinctively know if there's anything wrong. I'm sure it's fabulous but if I can help you at all - do get in touch. XXX

Arlee Bird said...

Don't stop blogging as long as it means something to you. The blogging has it's purpose, but if you are not working toward high rankings, visibility, or making money from blogging that purpose is more long range.

You're just on the writing roller coaster. I've been in a big dip as well and just coasting on a flat stretch. Enjoy your rest and nurse your ailments. The uphill climb will come back when you're ready for it. And before you know it you'll be back on top of things and enjoying the view.

Up and down. Such is life. My life at least, and, I think, most of ours.

Wrote By Rote

Suzanne Furness said...

I've only *found* you today Karen through the wonderful ISWG but I can see you have a lot of support out there in the blogoshere.

I think you will know when the time is right to write again! Take care :)

Julie said...

I'm so sorry to hear you've got a bug, Karen. I hope you are feeling much better soon. I'm sure that once you are back to feeling like yourself, and the stress of December and the holidays is over, the story will come back to you.

Mason Canyon said...

I don't see it as a whine, but a release for things that sometimes build up inside. When we release those, it frees up space for more positive thoughts. I'd say you're on the right track. Hope you're feeling better from the bronchitis and sinus infection, that can be rough.

Thoughts in Progress

Karen Walker said...

Jen, so nice to see you here. Thanks for those kind words.
Laura, nice to know that! Thanks
Oh, Lexie, there's definitely a third part waiting to emerge. Writerly hug right back at ya
E.J. funny thing is I thought I'd overcome all the caring about followers and commenters, etc. then wham! Thanks for your kind words
Susan, no, no dead end - it's just percolating
Yes, Lee, ups and downs are what life is all about
Suzanne, I actually know I will - Thanks - glad i found you too
Mason, oh, thank you for that. A release - much better than a whine!

L. Diane Wolfe said...

I would miss you, Karen.

Karen Walker said...

Aww, thanks, Diane

moonduster said...

I hope you get well soon and your energy returns. :)

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

Of course we would miss you!!!! Now take your medicine, feel better, and attack that manuscript. You can do it.

Karen Walker said...

Thanks, moon duster
Alex, yes sir!!

Jemi Fraser said...

Bronchitis stinks! It's so draining. I hope you feel better soon!

It's completely normal to wonder who - if anyone - would really miss us. At least I hope it's normal :) I think we all need to keep doing the next step of what's right for us - keep at it! :)

Shell Flower said...

Sometimes being sick burns away all the old so that we can become new again. I am a total baby when I am sick, and in a sense, it's like being reborn as you gain strength again. I love that you said you are still "mulching", I've heard it called composting, but yeah, it's so true that thoughts need to percolate a bit. Sickness is the cocoon, but soon you will fly to new heights of writing.

Jack said...

I know how you are feeling, about the questioning weather you should write. I'm kind of in that same place right now so I completely understand. (Illnesses don't help so I hope you get MUCH better soon.)

And I hope you keep going with your writing. Your story has me interested, though it is easier for the reader then the writer. I hope things go well for you soon!

Yolanda Renee said...

This is how I was feel a lot of the time, but never have the courage to say. I question myself and my motives constantly, sometimes I rise above it and sometimes I wallow in it. I was rejected at birth and to choose a profession where rejection is constant and almost never ending blows me away. I can't figure out why I do it other than the fact that I love it(writing). I'm compelled and miracle of miracle's maybe one day I'll be accepted (published) and can quell that voice in my head that says 'you aren't good enough, you'll never be good enough and the whole world knows it.'
Sorry, but what you wrote is why I think the IWSG exists. We get to say the things we really feel without judgement. Although, I still fail to do that most of the time -- fear. It's a killer!
Wishing you peace and me too!
Thanks for letting me blabber...

Shannon Lawrence said...

It sucks to feel like no one would miss you, and I admit I sometimes feel like that, too, but then I consider that I've connected with others in the Blogosphere, and I value those connections and hope that they are valued back, even if it isn't stated in a blog hop. I think EJ put it wonderfully. I started blogging to be heard, but I don't know that I'm saying anything new, so now I blog to make those connections with others.

I hope you feel better. :(

Shannon at The Warrior Muse

Liz Fichera said...

I do believe that we get caught up in all the social media that we forget the real reason we got into this profession: to write.

I say turn off the distractions and focus on your book. Social media isn't going anywhere but time sure is.

And get well soon, Karen! :)

Karen Walker said...

Comments like those above are the major reason I keep blogging. Because of the people I've connected with and the wisdom and love and kindness they so willingly share. Thank you so much.

Pk Hrezo said...

Hey Karen! Well, my blog wasn't mentioned once either that i know of. And I hadnt really thought about it til you mentioned it and now I'm feeling totally insecure. lol just kidding. But even tho you said dont try to make you feel better by saying your blog would be missed, i have to tell you that i would truly miss you if you didnt blog. Like everyone says, this is our little real estate in the cyber world and a place where our friends can stop in and visit.That's what makes your blog special is that I know I can do that anytime and you welcome me.
Hope you're feeling better soon, Karen. I had bronchitis for a month in August. Ick.

Jack said...

Thank you for your comment! (And I am glad you were able to find my blog at last. I shall have to see what happened. It won't be good if it doesn't allow readers to find it. 8-))

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LynnRush said...

That's a lot of stuff going on. And getting sick, that just drags ya down, doesn't it. Hang in there.