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“Only one thing is more frightening than speaking your truth, and that is not speaking it.” Naomi Wolf
“We are called human beings, not human doings.” Wes Nisker, Buddhist teacher
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs…(And) if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.” Theodore Roosevelt
Tuesday, March 5, 2013
Telling the truth Tuesday - Harmonies
I never tried to sing harmony before. I've been singing alone with songs all my life, but always the melody. My ear just isn't trained to hear harmony, especially if the harmonies are close together. So in my singing group, Sugartime, I always sing melody. But I've wanted to learn to do harmony. Oy!
I have struggled with it for several years. I can hold my melody if others sing harmony parts, but if I try to sing harmony, I am often pulled into the melody.
There is one harmony part I am determined to sing at an upcoming birthday party. I had my friend record herself singing the harmony part and spent weeks and weeks singing along with her until I felt sure I knew it. But when I tried to sing with her when she sang the melody, nope, couldn't do it.
Then I had her record herself singing the melody and practiced my harmony part singing with her - over and over and over again. Finally, now, after several months, I can do it.
Here's why I am telling you this. Harmony is a beautiful metaphor for relationships. With harmony, two or more people are each doing their own thing, singing their own notes. But in order for it to work, they must blend together, learn to trust the other person, learn to hold notes the same length of time, etc. Now isn't that brilliant? Isn't that so so true for relationships as well. We are each individuals, with our own thoughts, feelings, perceptions. Yet when we are in partnership with someone else, we must learn to blend with their thoughts, feelings, and perceptions. When singing harmony, if one voice is too loud, it overpowers the other. If one isn't loud enough, it gets lost. See what I mean?