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“Only one thing is more frightening than speaking your truth, and that is not speaking it.” Naomi Wolf

“We are called human beings, not human doings.” Wes Nisker, Buddhist teacher

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs…(And) if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.” Theodore Roosevelt

Monday, April 1, 2013

Monday Musings: choices

Making choices can be difficult. Take the A-Z Challenge, for example. I've participated in it the last few years and had fun making new connections. Got more followers. Met some wonderful peeps. But the downside is the commitment to not only place a blog post every day, but visit as many other bloggers as possible. That is a huge time commitment. I had to ask myself, why would I do this when I am having trouble doing the things that are most important in my life, like exercising, writing, practicing, etc. The answer was simple - I would participate for two reasons. One, to get more followers. The other would be to not feel left out of a big blogging event. But when I think about that, I realize I have to be true to my own needs and not just say yes because so many others are saying yes and having fun. There are some things I will miss out on because of my choices.

How about you?


Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

You have to do what is best for YOU.
I'll still visit, Karen!

Liz Fichera said...

I am unable to participate this year either, Karen. You are not alone. :)

Karen Walker said...

Thanks, Alex. I'm learning this lesson in a very powerful way.
Liz, that's nice to know.

L.G. Smith said...

It was the same choice for me this year. I've got to have my novel finished and polished by September, so I just didn't have the time to post every day. And, yep, I decided April would be my bootcamp month to get back to my old exercise schedule too.

L. Diane Wolfe said...

Real life is more important, Karen.

Optimistic Existentialist said...

I was going to participate but I don't think I'm creative enough to come up with a post every day :)

Karen Walker said...

L.G. I'm rooting you on....
Diane, yes, it is.
Optimistic, yes, you could - I'm sure - but it's a huge time commitment.

Claudia Moser said...

I chose to do it because while walking in a forest I got an idea and wanted to see if I can make it happen, and I did start writing. You are correct, it is a choice you make and I respect it!

Mark Means said...

Priorities are important as is making the right choices. You have to do what's right for you. No one can fault you for that :)

Pearson Report said...

Karen, you've hit on a great point - the Why?
Why do we do what we do?

Participation in any event should be solely a personal choice and not borne out of pressure of any kind.

I really waffled this year about participating as I have many other things vying for my limited time. (and limited attention as my mind wanders far too much lately) :)

Last year, as a co-host, I was overwhelmed with the pressures you mention...visiting many, many blogs, commenting on them, and posting my own was almost too much. It did give me pause about doing the A-Z this year.

However, I enjoy challenging myself and I love winging it so I felt that so long as I was true to my needs and could really enjoy the process I would do what I could and smile while doing it.

I will visit blogs when I can, and comment when the mood moves me, but I put no pressure to do either.

And...I've long ago given up the notion that increasing the number of followers is an indication of one's popularity. I follow what I know I would enjoy reading - nothing more, nothing less. If I'm followed I hope it's for the same reason.

The friendships which come out of regularly following and commenting on a site are a blessing and I count myself lucky in having connected with some amazing people...you are one of those blessings.

I read you because I enjoy what you have to say...whether that's part of a challenge or otherwise, I visit because I am interested in your writings.

With smiles and happy thoughts,

randi lee said...

I enjoy your posts, regardless of whether or not they'll come every day :)Do what you must. We'll be here!

Tracy Moore said...

You have to do what's right for you Karen. I almost didn't participate in a to z this year either but I decided to do it. Almost wishing I hadn't because am now sick with the stomach flu and finding that my heart isn't in the challenge. Maybe it'll get there. If not, I'll pull out. Anyway...we all have to make our decisions about what is right for us and I'm glad that you've made the ones which fulfill you.

Anonymous said...

Karen you have to do what is comfortable for you. Thanks for your comment, much appreciated.


Karen Walker said...

Claudia, thank you so much.
Mark, thank you. Now I just need to not fault myself, LOL.
Jenny, your comment meant more than you know!
Randi, thanks, that means a lot to me
Tracy, poor baby, feel better soon!
Yvonne, thanks

Nick Wilford said...

It shouldn't feel like an obligation to do it. My writing level did dip in April last year though, so I wanted to make this time a writing challenge in itself. I wanted to see if I can pull it off!

Hilary Melton-Butcher said...

Hi Karen .. I endorse Jenny's comment - though no doubt I'll get round as many as I can.

I just enjoy the writing along a theme - 26 posts which tie in together in someway ..

Equally it's a huge time commitment .. and perhaps the cold weather is a good thing, as one isn't seduced by the Spring warmth ... !!

I'll be getting out more no wit's lighter .. but equally will do what I can here - personally I just enjoy meeting new friends -

Cheers and enjoy April .. it's you that counts .. happy days -Hilary

Arlee Bird said...

I know what you're saying. April is a time of mixed feelings for me and sometimes a bit of conflict, but it's been rewarding. Thanks for the past participation and there's always next year.

Wrote By Rote
An A to Z Co-host blog

Gene Bodzin said...

I sympathize with you. I love the way you spill out your heart, and I am grateful for everything you write, but my own experience was very different. Maybe that's because the fifteen extra years I have over you means I am not concerned with making a career as a writer. I write to explore, never to pontificate. But the pressures of blogging can be oppressive. I did not start my blog until I had fifty entries in the bank ready to publish, and I stopped trying to submit new entries twice a week when I realized I was going over the same ground again. My blog had to be a journey of discovery, and I always found searching for new followers to be a fool's errand. I could begin writing with clarity and honesty only when I stopped caring about who liked what I was saying. For me, that meant no longer blogging, and I have felt much more freedom as a writer ever since.