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“Only one thing is more frightening than speaking your truth, and that is not speaking it.” Naomi Wolf

“We are called human beings, not human doings.” Wes Nisker, Buddhist teacher

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs…(And) if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.” Theodore Roosevelt

Tuesday, May 14, 2013

Telling the Truth Tuesday: I'm scared

I don't like to admit I'm afraid.I've been called courageous often in my life because of the choices I've made, but the truth is, I don't feel courageous at all. I just do what I feel in my heart is the right thing to do and have made some very difficult decisions because of that. But I try not to let fear stop me. Someone wrote a book called "Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway" and I love that title because I think that's what we need to do. But when I'm afraid, I become paralyzed and can't do anything.

So how do we overcome paralysis due to fear? Recognize what we are feeling. Acknowledge that it's perfectly okay to be afraid. What's not okay is to let it stop us. Have a gentle talk with ourselves about what our greatest fear is - what is the worst outcome that could happen? Usually, once I acknowledge the worst that could happen and come to terms with accepting that as a possibility, the paralysis lifts.

How about you? Do you let fear stop you? If not, how do you overcome it?


Anonymous said...

I too get afraid, but I usually play some self help cds. The fear is still there but the relaxing voice on the cd makes me feel less alone.


Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

Remember, courageous doesn't mean a lack of fear, it's just doing the right thing anyway.

Tonja said...

I think courage is doing the thing despite your fear. I think sometimes I am courageous, sometimes not. Always for my kids. :)

L.G. Smith said...

Oh, yeah. I often let fear stop me.

Karen Jones Gowen said...

I'm currently writing a novel I call "Afraid of Everything" because basically I am :)

Karen Walker said...

Yvonne, sounds like a great tool!
Alex, yup!
Tonja, yes, I think so, too.
L.G. oy!
Karen, Love that title!

Julia Hones said...

Sometimes we need to do things despite our fears, but this is not always the case. Fear can also stop us from doing something dangerous. Even though fear has a bad reputation, it has an important role. It may have to do with our own survival instinct.

Cherie Reich said...

They say that bravery is not the absence of fear but having the fear but doing it anyway. I tend to procrastinate when I'm afraid of something until I have no choice but to do it.

Gina Gao said...

Take your fear and turn it into action.


Manzanita said...

Often fear comes from the physical body, itself. Are you eating enough dirt? By that I mean taking super-minerals. Sometimes I don't do the minerals and fear creeps in. Good luck, Karen

Liz Fichera said...

My fear usually strikes AFTER I try something that's challenging. Weird, I know. 'Cause then I wonder: did I just make a total fool of myself? Am I good enough? etc etc