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Tuesday, August 20, 2013

Telling the Truth Tuesday: Commitment to oneself

Last Friday I made a decision. I hadn't worked on my novel in several weeks as I dealt with the medical diagnosis I received. I decided that I would work on it every spare minute this upcoming week. I would get through this second draft revision before I leave for South Africa in mid-September. Other than exercise and Sugartime rehearsals and gigs, there is nothing else that needs to take precedence. This is the priority. I have to stop telling myself it doesn't matter. It does. I have to stop telling myself it's not very good. I am not the judge of that. I have to stop telling myself no one will ever get to read it. They will. Even if it's only friends and family.

How about you? Do you make and keep commitments to yourself. Ones that are important. Or do you let them slide, allowing other chores and responsibilities to take over?

Blessings,
Karen

25 comments:

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

There you go! Make a decision to get it done. It does matter. And I'd like to read a fiction story of yours since your memoir was so good.

Optimistic Existentialist said...

I do keep my commitments to myself (for the most part). Sometimes it takes a while, but better late than never :)

jaybird said...

I'd like to say I keep all the commitments I've made to myself, but life with young kids seems to keep getting in the way. I put myself off, leave me and my priorities for last. I think that will change when my girls get a bit older, but for now, I have to be flexible. I know I will get to my writing goals, eventually.

Never stop believing in yourself Karen! You can do it. And just like Alex said, I want to read your fiction story one day!

BECKY said...

Karen, I haven't stopped by in quite a while but so glad I did today. My husband also has A-Fib and "a few" stents to repair aneurysms. He also takes a med or two, but is completely okey-dokey! Before he had his, I thought aneurysms only happened in the brain. You have the right attitude! Do what YOU want and need to do...for yourself! I'm always intrigued as to why we humans continually put things off, thinking we'll live to be 100, and tell ourselves: "I'll do that later." -or- "I have plenty of time to do that....after such and such." You are an inspiration! Hugs...

L.G. Smith said...

First, how exciting that you're going to South Africa. That should be a fascinating trip.

And, yeah, it's tough to commit to writing every single day when serious life issues intervene. But if it's important to you to finish, you will. Airplanes are great places to edit pages of a manuscript, by the way. :)

Karen Walker said...

Alex, these words mean so much - thank you!
Optimistic, you are so right - it's never too late!
jaybird, thank you so much
Becky, welcome back and thanks for this - glad your hubby is okay - and hugs right back at ya!

Karen Walker said...

L.G. Yes, I am very excited about our upcoming trip. And yes about planes. I am trying to get this second draft finished so I can print it out and bring it with me to work on the plane.

L. Diane Wolfe said...

Sit down and get it done, Karen!

YVONNE LEWIS: said...

I know you can succeed, your book that I read was wonderful. Good luck.

Thanks for the comment much appreciated.

Yvonne.

Karen Walker said...

Diane, I am doing just that!
Yvonne, you are very welcome.

D.G. Hudson said...

Recognizing and committing is the first step.

I agree with LG - take it with you, but I will add: write some new stories while you're there.

That way, you will be able to take notes of future work when you tire of editing or working on the other MS.

Susan Flett Swiderski said...

I'm better at keeping commitments to others than I am at keeping them to myself, but I eventually get around to me. Heck, ever since my second grade teacher told me I'd be a published author someday, I had that goal in the back of my mind. It (ahem) may have taken me a "few years" to follow through on that, but I couldn't very well make a liar out of that sweet lady.

Karen Walker said...

D.G., thanks - if new stories emerge, I won't stop them. But this is a vacation - I want to be fully present for all the wildlife I am going to see.
Susan, LOL, good for you!

Mary Aalgaard said...

Write it. The Readers will find it. Be strong.

~Ellie Kings~ said...

I've set many important things aside for not months, but years. Things that have been buried deep. But this year, I finally realized the writing ideas won't go away unless I write them. It's good to know I'm not alone.

Tonja said...

I think I would need to get myself a little bit of time to completely come to terms with the diagnosis. Add a trip on top of that, and it would be hard for me to concentrate.

Pk Hrezo said...

Hi Karen! Sorry to hear about the diagnosis. You sound like you're in good spirits tho.
You know, all writers feel the same way. At times I feel like I'm insane to think peeps will wanna read my stories. But hey whatever, right? I mean, we only live once... and living in fear is no way to live at all. Regrets for not trying are worse than failure.
So cool you're going to South Africa!! Have a wonderful time and be sure to share your pics! :)

Tammy Theriault said...

i commit at least, the very least, one day for pure night time writing. no matter what!

Misha Gericke said...

You're coming to South Africa?! Awesome? Where are you going to?


Best of luck with getting that draft done. I know you can do it. And yes, I set goals for my writing. I also make them public on my blog, so I can't just chicken out.

I also have a small bloghop running for people who want to set important/difficult goals and work towards them, if you're interested. ;-)

Karen Walker said...

Mary, thanks, the strength is building...
Ellie, that's the best thing about this community - there's always someone who "gets" it.
Tonja, yes, it is taking time to absorb
Pk, thanks bunches
Tammy, that's awesome
Misha, are you in South Africa? I'll post about where we're going an what we're doing soon
Thanks for the info

Misha Gericke said...

Yeah I live near Cape Town. :-)

Karen Walker said...

Misha, we're going to spend 5 days in Cape Town

Misha Gericke said...

Awesome! ^_^

Let me know if you need a tour guide.

Jack said...

It is hard, to keep writing with all of those thoughts in mind. I am glad you over came them, or are over coming them, and continuing with your writing.

Patricia Stoltey said...

Well, that depends. Sometimes life jerks your commitments right out from under you. :D

But in general, yes, setting aside writing time is a good example of what we need to do for ourselves, and kudos to you for making that time.