Welcome to Following the Whispers blog
Thank you so much for taking the time to visit. Hope you enjoy your stay. I blog here whenever I feel the need. This blog was created at the time my memoir came out, in February, 2009. Its motto was: creating a life of inner peace and self-acceptance from the depths of despair. Now, my focus is sharing this journey we call life.
“Only one thing is more frightening than speaking your truth, and that is not speaking it.” Naomi Wolf
“We are called human beings, not human doings.” Wes Nisker, Buddhist teacher
“The way to do is to be.” Loots
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs…(And) if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.” Theodore Roosevelt
Monday, March 10, 2014
Monday Musings - voices from the past
If you've read my memoir, you know I had parents that didn't really know how to parent and so they behaved in ways that were inappropriate and very damaging to a child. The technique I am using to undo some of that damage is this. I wrote out all the things I wanted and needed to hear from them. Then I went into Garage Band and recorded those messages as if it were them speaking. For example, Karen, this is Mom...or Dad. Then I went on to have them say the things I needed to hear.
There's been a lot of tears, which to me is a sign of letting go. It's a fairly intense grieving process as I let go of the loss of all the years I didn't know the thing I needed to know. But all I have is now. And now is getting better every day. I am opening up in ways I didn't dream possible, particularly with my writing.
Do you have any helpful hints for dealing with painful voices from the past?