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Tuesday, April 22, 2014

Telling the Truth Tuesday: Yikes I'm turning 65 in 2 days

I was very disturbed the past few months about turning 65 and going on Medicare. Old people are on Medicare -- not me. But then two things happened. One, I realized what a difficult life I have had and how I've worked so hard to overcome those hardships and now have a wonderful, blessed life. So I decided that I would be grateful that I made it 65 years, rather than being upset about the number.
Secondly, I saw a video on, I think it was the Ellen DeGeneres show, of an ob/gyn doc who got breast cancer. When it was time for her surgery, she gathered the surgical team together and asked them all to dance in the operating room before doing the procedure. When Ellen asked why she did that, she said, "Because when you are facing death, it is time to celebrate life."
My new mantra, folks. Because we are all facing death. We just don't know exactly when that is going to happen.


Manzanita said...

Hey you're still a sprout. Wanna trade?
Happy Birthday. Make it a grand celebration.

Hilary Melton-Butcher said...

Hi Karen - you've plenty of years left ... worry ye little and there'll be less wrinkles (well I hope so!!).

Love the thought of telling the operating team to dance ..

Love Manzanita's comment!!! Too true ........????? Happy week - Hilary

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

What a great attitude she had!
Embrace the age. You've still many more years to come.

Madeline Mora-Summonte said...

Great post and a great reminder! The older I get, the more I try to learn and grow and be grateful. Some days it's easier than others. :)

Happy Birthday!

(Stopping by from Alex's blog.)

kmckendry said...

I love the new mantra. And Happy Birthday! You'll still be dancing and singing for many years to come. My grandpa was still chopping down trees in his nineties!

Robin said...

I love this new mantra. Yes, we are all facing death so let's approach life with celebration in our hearts.

Have you heard this song?


Karen Walker said...

Manzanita, we should get together some time and DANCE!!!
Hilary, the video was so inspiring. Wish I could remember her name.
Alex, I'm trying...and thank you so so much for honoring me by mentioning 1994 as the year I met my hubby and saying such nice things about me and my blog. You're an angel.
Madeline, thank you so much for taking the time to stop by. And yes, some days are easier than others.
kmckendry, me, too. Love the new mantra, that is.

Karen Walker said...

Robin, yes, I have. It is a wonderful sentiment.

Jennifer Chandler said...

Hello Karen!

So happy to have "found" you again! I love this mantra. Yes, we do all face death, sometimes in other ways than the physical. If we remember to dance, it makes life such a gift and not just another burden to get through. Thanks for the reminder!

Oh, and like I tell my mom, there is only one alternative to getting older and I'm not ready for her to accept that just yet ;)

Cheers and happy early birthday!

Tyrean Martinson said...

Happy Birthday! Celebrate each moment of every day!

Fanny Barnes Thornton said...

Hello Karen,
I've recently turned 65 and it was not so bad after all.
I was disappointed having to go on high blood pressure tablets when I turned 60 because I felt so fit and healthy.
I feel blessed, too, just being here. So many people I have known in my life are already gone, and at young ages. There must be a purpose.
I found you at Alex's blog.
Celebrate your birthday - lots of dancing. Best wishes.

debi o'neille said...

I just hopped over after visiting Alex's blog, so I am now your newest follower. We do need to celebrate each day, because we never know when it will be our last. I'd hate to waste my last day on a bad mood. :-)
Deb@ http://debioneille.blogspot.com

Dean K Miller said...

I've followed debi from Alex's site as well.

Dance every day, in darkness or in light, for dancing shows we are alive and we are living!

Tracy Moore said...

Oh wow Karen, so glad that I visited your blog today. Love that new mantra of yours and am going to keep it fresh in my own mind.

Remember...your physical age may say 65 but your soul is timeless. <3

Sherry Ellis said...

Love her attitude!

Happy Birthday to you!

Karen Walker said...

Jen, I'm grateful we "found" each other again, too. And thanks - I remind myself all the time that this beats the alternative.
Tyrean, that is a wonderful attitude!
Fanny, thanks for the visit and the kind thoughts. Sounds like we both are in a similar place.
Deb, I love that - I'll have to remember that the next time my mood shifts in that direction - cause you never know, right?
Dean, yes, dance every day - love how you phrased this
Tracy, oh how I love you!
Sherry, yes, she has a great attitude - thank you

Mason Canyon said...

Karen, happy early birthday. You're not getting old, you're just embarking on another part of your life's journey. I love your mantra. We should all have that attitude. Wishing you a week filled with happy surprises and many, many, many more wonderful years of experiencing life.

Mary Montague Sikes said...

Embrace the day! You are far wiser now! Visiting from Alex's blog!

Mary Montague Sikes

mooderino said...

When I was a kid 65 really was old, but nowadays it's not a barrier to doing anything. Happy Birthday and don't party too hard!

Moody Writing

Suze said...

'One, I realized what a difficult life I have had and how I've worked so hard to overcome those hardships and now have a wonderful, blessed life.'

I like this very much, Karen. It's true and an excellent lens through which to view the 'number.'

Karen Walker said...

Mason, I love your wish for me - thank you so much
Mary, that is so true - thank you
mooderino, yes, it was old to me when I was young, too. It's different now
Suze, thanks honey

Maria Dunn said...

Hope you had a wonderful birthday. Sounds like you have developed an attitude of gratitude over the years. That's a great way to celebrate. Blessings, Maria from Delight Directed Living

Tracy Jo said...

Love it! Happy birthday to one special lady! Embrace every moment.

Leslie S. Rose said...

Popped over from Alex C.'s blog. Happy Birthday. I guess I've lost a lot of people in my life so I have great appreciation of every day and every starry night.

Sharon Lippincott said...

Yes. Dance. And in five years dance again. My daughter sent me a t-shirt for the birthday I just had that says "Made in 1944. All original parts." Close enough. I still have all parts except wisdom teeth and only replacement ones are in my eyes.

Medicare is a good thing. Everyone should have it!

Karen Walker said...

Maria, birthday is tomorrow but seems the whole month is about this birthday - thanks
Tracy Jo, aww, thanks
Leslie, I am so sorry for your losses - yes, those kinds of things can make us look at life differently
Sharon, that's great - I don't have all my original parts, but yes, Medicare is wonderful - very grateful we have it.

Jack said...

Birthdays are always a reason to celebrate, no matter the age. They are a wonderful reminder on the blessings of life.

jaybird said...

Happy Birthday! And you have so much more joy to bring to this life to get sad about what age you are! I love that doctor's motto. Celebrate life!!

Liz Fichera said...

Happy, Happy Birthday, Karen!! And MANY MANY more! Time to celebrate!! :)

Ann said...

What a wonderful attitude that doctor had before surgery. It only matches yours! A very Happy Birthday to you Karen.

Misha Gericke said...

So true, it's a blessing that you've come so far.

Have fun celebrating! You deserve it. :-)

LD Masterson said...

My 6-5 birthday is next month. I'll celebrate with you.