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Thank you so much for taking the time to visit. Hope you enjoy your stay. I blog here whenever I feel the need. This blog was created at the time my memoir came out, in February, 2009. Its motto was: creating a life of inner peace and self-acceptance from the depths of despair. Now, my focus is sharing this journey we call life.

“Only one thing is more frightening than speaking your truth, and that is not speaking it.” Naomi Wolf

“We are called human beings, not human doings.” Wes Nisker, Buddhist teacher

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs…(And) if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.” Theodore Roosevelt

Tuesday, February 24, 2015

Telling the Truth Tuesday: anniversary bliss

19 years ago today I married my wonderful hubby. I weighed 183 (and I'm only 5'3"). He married me anyway. I had a history of dysfunctional relationships. He married me anyway. I had a tendency towards depression. He married me anyway. I had no money. He married me anyway. I had a son who wasn't speaking to me. He married me anyway.

I had such low self esteem I couldn't understand why and for the longest time, didn't trust his love. But it never wavered. Today, I am 50+ pounds lighter, have healthy friendships, depression is fleeting if it comes at all, I still earn no money, and I have a very close relationship with my son. In addition, I have the opportunity to do two things that fill my soul with joy--sing and write.

What if I hadn't listened to the voice of wisdom that whispered to me that I should give this man a chance? My whole life has become about tuning into that wisdom and listening. Sometimes I am successful. Sometimes I'm not. But more and more, I am trusting this journey called life. And on this particular day, I am celebrating 19 years of marriage with a man I am so lucky to call my husband.



Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

Happy anniversary! He changed your life.

Karen Walker said...

Yes, he did, Alex. But I also changed his!!

Arlee Bird said...

Apparently your husband didn't see what you saw, but who you were inside and the potential of what more you could be. A man with vision that goes beyond the superficial I'd say.

Arlee Bird
A to Z Challenge Co-host
Tossing It Out

Karen Walker said...

What a lovely way to put it, Lee. Thank you.

nashvillecats2 said...

Happy anniversary and many more to come.

Tonja said...

I'm sure he isn't perfect (no one is). But you married him anyway. I suspect you gave him the same gift of unconditional love. :) Happy anniversary.

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LD Masterson said...

Unconditional love is a gift from God. I'm happy you found yours. Happy Anniversary.

Jerry n Kimberly Peterson said...

I too found that special someone to share my later years with and he accepted me with all of my flaws, but in the same breath I also accepted him with all of his too! It has turned out exceptionally well for the two of us now for 18 years and we pray we have many more years to spend enjoying one another!

Hilary Melton-Butcher said...

Hi Karen - many congratulations on 19 years of marriage - and I'm so pleased for you ... sounds like it's worked out so so well - and you're good for each other.

Here's to many more ... take care and have a happy weekend - Hilary