Welcome to Following the Whispers blog
Thank you so much for taking the time to visit. Hope you enjoy your stay. I blog here whenever I feel the need. This blog was created at the time my memoir came out, in February, 2009. Its motto was: creating a life of inner peace and self-acceptance from the depths of despair. Now, my focus is sharing this journey we call life.
“Only one thing is more frightening than speaking your truth, and that is not speaking it.” Naomi Wolf
“We are called human beings, not human doings.” Wes Nisker, Buddhist teacher
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs…(And) if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.” Theodore Roosevelt
Saturday, December 19, 2015
Concern about followers
I'm coming out of my retreat to talk about something I find concerning. I haven't posted anything since I posted about taking a retreat till after New Year's and yet I've lost 11 followers this week. Over the years, since 2009, I've lost a follower here and there, but never this many at one time. I'm trying to understand what could have caused this and the only thing I can think of is that something I've posted or perhaps my novel, is the reason.
Following a blog is a statement that you like what that particular blogger has to say and want to hear more. I've chosen to follow hundreds of blogs over the years for that reason. But it's impossible for me to visit all the blogs I've chosen to follow. Still, I've never "unfollowed" anyone, even if I don't visit their blog anymore.
What I would wish is that someone who has chosen to follow me and then finds a reason not to anymore, would let me know why. Perhaps we could dialogue about it and come to an understanding. So often in my personal life, I'm afraid to confront someone about something they've said or done, but I've learned over the years, that it's better to say something than nothing at all. Because if I say nothing at all, I usually end up pulling away from that person, which is what "unfollowing" is.
I respect everyone's right to choose to follow a particular blog. But if someone chooses to unfollow, it would be no nice to know why.
If my novel has offended anyone, I'm deeply sorry for that. That was not my intention. If something I've said here has offended or upset anyone, again, I'm deeply sorry. I post about my own life journey and my own lessons. There's a wonderful slogan from Al-Anon - "Take what like and leave the rest."
I love that. It's so non-judgmental.
Anyway, please share your thoughts about following and unfollowing. Perhaps some of your ideas will help me process what feels like a mass exodus.
Wishing everyone a Merry Christmas and a very Happy New Year.