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Thank you so much for taking the time to visit. Hope you enjoy your stay. I blog here whenever I feel the need. This blog was created at the time my memoir came out, in February, 2009. Its motto was: creating a life of inner peace and self-acceptance from the depths of despair. Now, my focus is sharing this journey we call life.

“Only one thing is more frightening than speaking your truth, and that is not speaking it.” Naomi Wolf

“We are called human beings, not human doings.” Wes Nisker, Buddhist teacher

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs…(And) if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.” Theodore Roosevelt

Wednesday, February 7, 2018

Insecure Writer's Support Group - February


Well, it's been awhile since I've posted here (thank you, Alex, for reminding me). I guess because I'm not working on a writing project at the moment, this has not been top of mind for me. But there is a new writing project lurking in my subconscious and I'm struggling with whether I want to do it or not.
I've just become a grandmother to twins and I'm going to be flying back and forth to the East Coast fairly frequently.
I'm turning 69 in April and I'm not sure I want all the energy and attention that will be required to do this project to go to that project.
Partly, it's because I haven't been "successful" in the ways I hoped at writing. Yes, each book has been immensely satisfying to complete and put out in the world. But truthfully, they're not selling. And truthfully, I'm not doing anything to help them sell.
Perhaps there's a reason people retire in their sixties and seventies. We've worked hard at our careers all our lives and at some point, it becomes time to let go of "doing" and just "be."
Except I'm not happy when I'm not productive. And I'm not particularly happy when I'm not writing. Writing always has and probably always will, helps me make sense of my world. So...I'll probably peck away at this new project for that reason alone. It is another memoir...one that continues to chronicle this incredible healing journey I am on. Stay tuned....

Blessings
Karen

31 comments:

Bish Denham said...

I can identify with your dilemma. I do like a good deal of the writing process, but the editing/revising/promotional side of it is not fun for me.

Congratulations on your twin grandbabies!

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

I guess you're going to have to keep writing, even if it's only a little bit.

Charity Bradford said...

I'm still quite away from 69 but totally understand. I wonder how much is age, or just the fact that our world is so busy now. It's always go, go, go, with very little time to just be no matter your age. At least you recognize that you need to write for you. Maybe that's enough. Good luck with all your goals.

Natalie Aguirre said...

I can relate to a lot of what you're saying because I'm over 60 as well, though not retired. Not sure if getting published is in the cards for me, and there are other things I want to focus on. And being with your grandkids is so important. Maybe take a laptop and write in little spurts. I'm writing when I can now for me and enjoying it. I'll see if I try to get published. Okay if I decide not to.

Karen Walker said...

I don't mind the editing and revising, Bish, but I sure do hate the promotional stuff.
Alex, Sigh! I guess so
Charity, I think you're right. It is partly the age we live in and the speed with which everyone seems to be moving through it.
Natalie, I'll definitely have my laptop with me, so if the words begin to appear, I can begin to capture them.
Love your attitude. Okay either way...

Rachna Chhabria said...

Congratulations on becoming a grandmother. Enjoy this phase of life without worrying about whether your books are selling or not.

Karen Walker said...

I'm not worrying about whether the books are selling, Rachna - only in the context of thinking about writing another one as part of the decision-making process.

L. Diane Wolfe said...

Considering how wonderful your first memoir turned out, I think you need to continue with another one.

M. L. Keller said...

I totally emphasize with you. I see so many writing friends moving forward, and I feel like I'm stuck. For now, I'll keep working under the delusion that the next one will be the one.

Karen Walker said...

Thanks for those kind words, Diane.
M.L. that sounds like a good plan

Crystal Collier said...

If it makes you happy, never stop writing. If just one other person reads it and enjoys it, then you've touched a life.

Karen Walker said...

Thanks for that great reminder, Crystal

Suzanne Furness said...

I can relate to this Karen. I have been struggling to complete this project, partly because I feel disappointed with my success so far. Writing a book takes a lot of time, energy and emotional input. Thing is, I don't like it when I don't write, it really feels like something is missing from my life, so I will push on. Maybe you should write for you as and when you feel the urge but enjoy the family too. Those little ones grow up so quickly.

Cathy said...

Oh, my. I could've written the exact same words as you did. I guess I keep forging ahead because being published has been a dream for me for so long. For many years, it was a back-burner one, for sure, while I raised my children and worked full time. Now that I'm retired I have the time to pursue it ... but is it worth it anymore? Is it too late? I don't know. I do know that my life is happy and fulfilled, with or without the dream-attainment.

And yes, it's so good to have time to "BE." A human be-ing, not a human-doing, after running at 90 mph for years and years.

Stephen Tremp said...

Hi Karen long time no see. I feel the same way I need to be productive to feel satisfied. Maybe you could have a local event at a library that's what i'm going to do in the near future.

February 2018 ISWG Co-host
www.stephentremp.com

Em-Musing said...

Twins! Wow! I gave up a lucrative career to watch my 3 grandkids. It was the most rewarding years of my life. Even more than raising my 2 daughters. I have more wisdom and patience now. Yup, it's lots of energy, no on doubt. My grandkids are now in their teens and we have a strong bond that my daughters envy. Pump up the vitamins and supplements. I too struggle every day at not judging myself too harshly when I don't feel productive enough. Guess life is always a struggle though. Again...twins - wow!

emaginette said...

Sounds like you have some thinking to do. It's not getting there, it's the journey that's worth doing.

Anna from elements of emaginette

Shannon Lawrence said...

Congratulations on becoming a grandma! Sounds exciting, but exhausting.

Jacqui Murray said...

I definitely relate, Karen (I'm 66). I've decided that the joy of writing is reason enough because--as you say--I can't sit around and NOT do something. What would I do if I didn't write?

Michelle Wallace said...

A new writing project lurking in your subconscious? Ooh. Sounds quite exciting. Many writers love this stage which they refer to as the 'shiny new idea'...
Congrats on your grandmotherly status - it's a whole different phase of life.

Pat Garcia said...

It sounds like you have taken a deep look at what is within you and realise that not writing at all is worse than writing, because if you don't write, you don't have your inner peace. I have no idea how you're going to do both, but I do believe where there is a will there is a way. And I believe you will find the way to do both.
Wishing you all the best.

Shalom aleichem,
Pat G @ EverythingMustChange

Hilary Melton-Butcher said...

Hi Karen - that's good you're still writing and thinking about the new project ... plenty of time on those plane trips. Just enjoy your granddaughter and life itself ... take care - cheers Hilary

Jemi Fraser said...

Real life always comes first! But I'm really glad to hear that you're continuing to write as well. Have fun!

Elizabeth Spann Craig said...

A memoir sounds like a good choice! I bet that it really helps you to clarify what and how you think about things in your life, too (not that you really have that issue because you're reflective, but I know that it would be helpful for me).

Excited for you and the grandchildren!

Karen Walker said...

Thanks everyone for your kind words of encouragement. I leave on Monday for a three-month grandmother stint where I will be taking care of the babies while their parents are at work. We'll see...

Liza said...

First of all, congratulations on being a grandmother of twins! How wonderful for all! As for writing, my guess is that you will get to the point where you simply HAVE to write. It's in your DNA after all. Enjoy it when it comes.

Ann Best said...

Hi, Karen. Fancy seeing me here huh. I've never forgotten you, never will. If I ever get to Albuquerque to see my two youngest grandsons...tried last October with Jen and didn't make it. Can't do the long car travel anymore. Would have called you if I'd made it. A reason why I'm blogging again, on a limited basis, because I miss the contact with old blogger But I suspect, like you, I won't do it for too many mores as I'm almost 78, still caregiver. That means you're older too...and now a grandmother. Twins! Congratulations!
Enjoy the journey. (I did read Still Me, it was wonderful. How lax I am, though. I need to post a review. Yes, we can't make much money writing books. We have to be doing it for the personal satisfaction - if we have the time. Family first IMO. Love you, Ann

Karen Walker said...

Ann, so so good to hear from you. Thanks so much for connecting again.
Liza, thank you, too. I think you're probably right!

Nick Wilford said...

Congrats on the new arrivals! I think that writing bug is something that never goes away once it hits, so you'll probably always be doing something. Your memoirs will also be a great legacy for your family, so it's worth it for that reason alone.

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