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Wednesday, May 2, 2018

Insecure Writer's Support Group - May

It's time once again for Alex's Insecure Writer's Support Group www.alexjcavanaugh.blogspot.com, a wonderful place where writers come together and share their experience, strength and hope with each other.

I almost feel like I don't belong here anymore. I am so disconnected from everything I've known in my life while I am caring for my twin grandbabies. I'm not writing. I'm not singing. I'm not dancing. I'm not with my friends. I am simply with these wonderful babies, loving and nurturing them as best I can. My husband realized that we only have three more weekends here with my son and his family before we head home and my heart and my arms are already aching.   So here's where my insecurity lies this month. Do I leave the very wonderful life hubby and I have built and move closer to our grandchildren or do we find a way to visit often? It's expensive to fly back and forth -I don't know how much we can do that. What I know for sure is that we want to be part of these babies lives for as long as we're around, and having just turned 69, who knows how long that will be. I'm not being morbid or negative here, just realistic. So we have a lot to think about when we get home. I'm feeling so pulled apart by this decision. And that's where I'm at, folks...
How about you?


Jennifer Hawes said...

Lots to think about! Sending prayers for you. Twin grandbabies!!!!

L. Diane Wolfe said...

You're both retired, so you can live anywhere. But I know how hard it would be to leave ABQ.

Ronel Janse van Vuuren said...

I think it's all about priorities: what do you really want? Once you know that, the rest is easy. Well, not easy, but you know what you have to do and that makes it easier. Good luck!

Ronel visiting on Insecure Writer's Support Group day: Autumn Decisions

M. L. Keller said...

Such a difficult decision. My parents live far away and I know my daughter would like them to be closer, but I also know how much my parents love living in Florida. They'd be leaving their friends, a neighborhood that they love and a lifestyle that benefits their health. So much to think about, but make the decision that is right for you!

Nick Wilford said...

Whatever the decision, I hope you get to spend as much time with them as you can. And you'll always be part of the group here!

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

Make the best decision for everyone involved. I'm sure you will.

Crystal Collier said...

I get that. My mom just made a move for that reason. Some days I wish she hadn't because she was such a part of the community she left, and some days I'm happy for her. That's such a tough decision. Tell you what? I'll loan you my teleportation device...once I can figure out how to get it working.

Jemi Fraser said...

Good luck with that decision - it is SO hard! Life is always such a balancing act. Good luck and give those babies a snuggle for me!

Cathy said...

For hubby and me, the decision would be a no-brainer: go to live near the family, grandbabies. We live near all of our grandkids. We've been thinking about spending winters in the Phoenix area, but then, we would be away at Thanksgiving and Christmas, and we can't have that.

We have never missed a single grandchild birthday, and with six grandkids in ages ranging from 2-16, that means we've been part of 62 birthdays. Plus, we see them every week or so. When they were younger, there were the very frequent weekend sleepovers. When a daughter had a baby who spent a year in the hospital, I was there to take care of her other 3 kids.

Michelle Wallace said...

Twin grandbabies? A joy and a blessing!
I think it's all about priority.
Everything of the best as you ponder this very important decision...
Writer In Transit

emaginette said...

Writing can wait until you're done. It never goes anywhere without. hehehe

Anna from elements of emaginette

Natalie Aguirre said...

No, don't leave this world of writing. You'll find the balance with time. I go through those life changing times all the time and am glad when I can come back to my writing. I hope you figure out to live. I'm super excited my mom and daughter live close to me and my daughter doesn't plan to move.

E.M.A. Timar said...

Spending time with your family and prioritizing them doesn't make you any less a writer, Karen. You will always be welcome in the writer community. I know you will figure out what is best for your family. In the meantime, enjoy the time with your grandbabies.

Karen Walker said...

Thank you all for these heartfelt comments. I'm so sorry I didn't get to visit any of you yesterday. It was one of those days where there was no break at all with the babies.

Pat Garcia said...

I think you already know the answer. Your heart has already told you what to do. Those babies are only babies once. You are seeing the next generation and you have the opportunity to be an integral part of their lives. But you have to move closer to do what you want to do. Karen, everything changes. Nothing remains the same. Move on to a new epoch in your life and into more joy than you can ever imagine.
All the best.

Shalom aleichem,
Pat G @ EverythingMustChange

Elizabeth Seckman said...

If it was feasible, I'd probably be moving to my grandbabies and still keep writing. I wouldn't sing in dance- at least not in front of anyone!

Patricia Stoltey said...

It's so hard when you get that attached to the little ones. It all comes down to what's important to you and how you want to spend your time. Even if you move, the things you consider important, whether writing or dancing or singing, will still work their way back into your life.

Michael Di Gesu said...

Hi, Karen,

So sorry for your distress, BUT I agree with the others, MOVE. SO many seniors are starting new lives in different cities, towns, etc. WHY not YOU?! I know you will be leaving behind your friends and home you've had for so many years. But you can always travel to see them if your heart is with your family.

DMS said...

Glad you have been enjoying your time with your grandbabies. Such precious time!

Sounds like you have some tough decisions to think about. Hope you and your hubby can figure out the best option for you and what you want. :)

LD Masterson said...

I was so blessed having all my grandkids born while I was in my 50's and growing up close by. Now they're starting to move on and I'm empty-nesting all over again.

You've got a hard decision and I don't envy you. One factor would be how much of your life could you have in a new location (writing, certainly) and what would you have to leave behind? All I can say is I wouldn't trade being part of my grandkids' lives for anything.

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