Welcome to Following the Whispers blog

Thank you so much for taking the time to visit. Hope you enjoy your stay. I blog here whenever I feel the need. This blog was created at the time my memoir came out, in February, 2009. Its motto was: creating a life of inner peace and self-acceptance from the depths of despair. Now, my focus is sharing this journey we call life.

“Only one thing is more frightening than speaking your truth, and that is not speaking it.” Naomi Wolf

“We are called human beings, not human doings.” Wes Nisker, Buddhist teacher

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs…(And) if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.” Theodore Roosevelt

Tuesday, December 31, 2013

New Year

Each year I do an exercise I discovered back in the 1970's. It was created by someone named Lakein -   I don't remember the whole name or the book it came from but it goes like this:
Set a timer for 3 minutes and write without thinking your lifetime goals.
Set a timer for 3 minutes and write without thinking your three-year goals
Set a timer for 3 minutes and write without thinking your goals if you only had six months to live.

It never fails to help me get my priorities straight. In previous years, travel always showed up, even on the six months to live list. I guess I've seen pretty much all of the things my soul needed me to see, because what showed up this time more than anything - and it showed up on all three lists, was to finish my novel. And some other writing projects that have been on the back burner. And some connecting with family members. But what I came away with is that writing this book is my sacred journey right now and I need to make it the priority my subconscious is telling me it is.

I wish I knew why the thing that is most important to my soul is the hardest thing I've ever attempted. But it is what it is and I will do what I need to do and, as with so many other things I've accomplished in my life, this one will get done, too.

Here's wishing you the tenaciousness and willingness and strength to do what you need to do for the coming year to fulfill your heart's desires.


Thursday, December 19, 2013

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!

Well, everyone, it's time to sign off and spend time with family and friends. Wishing you all a wonderful holiday season and very happy, healthy, prosperous New Year!


Tuesday, December 17, 2013

Telling the Truth Tuesday: Blankies

Every night, after dinner, my husband and I snuggle up together on the couch and struggle to find something we both want to watch. But it almost doesn't matter whether we do or not, because what I love is the snuggling under the blankie. It's important which blankie we use, too, because for a while we were using a crocheted blankie that is wool. That didn't feel right. Some blankies are too big or too thick. Some are too small and don't cover our toes if we have it up to our necks. But we found a cashmere blankie that is the perfect size and shape and thickness. And it feels absolutely delicious.
Do you have particularly blankies you love or hate?

Monday, December 16, 2013

Monday Musings: slowing down

There's something to be said for slowing down. I've had no choice - I have no energy. Even so, I am finding peace in this journey towards healing my body. It's mid-December and I can now accept that the holidays are here. I know, I know, Thanksgiving has already come and gone, but I couldn't wrap my head around that one. Hannukah has come and gone as well. I much prefer it when it comes right along with Christmas and I can light both the candles and the lights. I love Christmas lights. One of my favorite things during this season is to ride around the neighborhood looking at the lights. In Albuquerque, different neighbors light luminaries. If you don't know what that is (I didn't before I moved here) it is small brown bags filled with sand and a lit candle. On Christmas Eve many houses decorate their yards with luminaries and it is quite beautiful. Friends walk along singing Christmas carols. In Old Town, merchants hand out hot apple cider for free.

As I try to move my body back to wholeness, my Spirit is beginning to soar, releasing negativity, healing old wounds, and shifting into gratefulness rather than fear.

Here's wishing you the opportunity to slow down in the midst of the holiday madness and joy.

Tuesday, December 10, 2013

Telling the Truth Tuesday: there's a reason I'm so lethargic

I've been waiting for an appointment with a different physician for weeks. I had extensive lab work and several heart monitoring tests and yesterday I got the results. Basically, I have adrenal fatigue, extremely low thyroid functioning and my metabolism is pretty much non-existent. It's why I've been so lethargic, no energy, tired all the time and quite a bit mentally confused. At least I know I'm not losing my mind.  My heart has to work much harder to accomplish what it's supposed to accomplish.
Treatment is commencing immediately and I'm keeping my fingers crossed that this protocol works, because the thyroid meds I've been on for 9 months did diddelysquat.

The good news is the doc said he doesn't see arteries as good as mine on 40 year-olds. And my meditations with my characters are going well. Guess I can see this as a real positive. Since I don't have energy for much else, I do have the energy to sit and meditate.

How about you?

Monday, December 9, 2013

Monday Musings - nada

Good morning,
I never want to post just because I'm supposed to. It doesn't feel authentic, so I need to tell you I've got nothing, nada, zip, zero. Hope you all have a great day and hopefully something will come to me for tomorrow.

Wednesday, December 4, 2013

Insecure Writer's Support Group - December

Once again, thank you Alex for this opportunity to share our writing progress the first Wednesday of each month in a forum with other writers who totally understand both our angst and our joy. If there is still anyone on the planet who blogs and doesn't know Alex, you can find him here: http://alexjcavanaugh.blogspot.com.

My writing is going well. I am working with writing coach extraordinaire, Mark David Gersonhttp://markdavidmuse.blogspot.com. He has recorded meditations to help me connect with my characters. Not only am I connecting with my characters, I am connecting more with me. Writing has always helped me make sense of my life, but this part of my journey, it is healing me in ways I didn't think possible (see yesterday's post).

I woke up Monday morning writing in my head. I had to scramble for a piece of paper to get the thoughts down before they disappeared. I'm thinking of a series of essays, rather than a full-length memoir, inspired by Dani Shapiro's brilliant book, Still Writing. If I do decide to pursue this idea, I just might post the essays here as they come. See what you guys think.

Anyway, here's to all of you Still Writing, I hope. That is, if that's what you want to be doing.

Tuesday, December 3, 2013

Telling the Truth Tuesday: rounded versus flat characters

During a meditation exercise to connect more deeply with my characters, the main male figure paid me a visit. The things I learned about him helped me understand why he is the way he is in my story, thus shifting him from a flat character to a round one.

The next morning, I woke up at 4 am, bolted up to a seating position with this amazing insight. Up until now, I have only seen my flaws. If I wake up in the morning with a zit, I focus on it all day. If I gain weight, same thing. I never really understood why my husband fell in love with me, because all I see are the character defects. How the heck could I write rounded characters when I couldn't see myself as one. I've made myself wrong my whole life.

This realization has literally changed my life. My entire perspective shifted. I feel as if I am on a tilter whirl. It is also helping me see others in my life as rounded as well, thus making me less judgmental.

Even if nothing ever happens with this manuscript I am writing, it doesn't matter. The writing of it is my spiritual journey and my spiritual journey is the writing.


Monday, December 2, 2013

Monday Musings: stress free Thanksgiving

Hope everyone had a good holiday and enjoyed family, friends and great food. We had probably the most stress-free Thanksgiving ever. We weren't able to get together with any family members this year for a variety of reasons, so we invited our friend's parents, who are in their mid-eighties, to spend the day with us. We were responsible for the turkey, stuffing, sweet potato casserole and pie. They brought mashed potatoes, cranberry sauce, and wine.

I decided not the stuff the bird this year, so I could make the stuffing the day before. Made it so much easier doing it that way. Then Thursday morning, all I had to do was put together the casserole, make the salad (sans the dressing, of course,) and hubby made the pecan pie.

When it was a time to eat, we simply had to put three dishes in the oven for 15 minutes and voila, our meal was ready. I used to fret so about things coming out together at the same time. I used to hate doing all the dishes. Actually I used to hate cooking. But something's happened and I am enjoying the preparation and the clean up of food. I think I've moved beyond living my life on one color of the rainbow.

How about you?