Welcome to Following the Whispers blog

Thank you so much for taking the time to visit. Hope you enjoy your stay. I blog here whenever I feel the need. This blog was created at the time my memoir came out, in February, 2009. Its motto was: creating a life of inner peace and self-acceptance from the depths of despair. Now, my focus is sharing this journey we call life.

“Only one thing is more frightening than speaking your truth, and that is not speaking it.” Naomi Wolf

“We are called human beings, not human doings.” Wes Nisker, Buddhist teacher

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs…(And) if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.” Theodore Roosevelt

Tuesday, October 28, 2014

Telling the Truth Tuesday: Sometimes I take the easy way out

Yesterday I wrote about how I wasn't lazy, but maybe I am. Because sometimes I take the easy way out. I'll say yes to something right in front of me and maybe that's not the best option, yet it's the easiest because it's right in front of me. If I don't take that option, I have to search further for the right one. I don't think this is related to being older either. I think this thing about wanting things to be easy has been with me for a long time. When the going gets tough, I want to stop going. But I don't stop, even if I want to. When I went back to college in my 50s to get my four-year degree, I wanted to quit every damned day. I didn't. Instead, I graduated Summa Cum Laude. I'm not saying that to brag, because I still don't quite believe it myself that I did so well.

I'm not sure where I'm going with this post. I guess what I'm trying to say is that even if I want to take the easy way out with publishing my book, there is no such thing. There is hard work in writing a query, a synopsis, researching appropriate small publishers, mailing the packets, following up, etc. If I choose to avoid that and self-publish, there is hard work in finding an illustrator, getting help with formatting and distribution, etc. I cannot avoid the hard work, no matter which route I take. So I must take my time figuring out what is the right choice for this story. And just bite the freakin' bullet and do it.


Monday, October 27, 2014

Monday Musings: I'm stuck

I'm stuck. I know I won't stay stuck, but stuck I am. I just don't want to do what I have to do to get my book published. Maybe it's that all of my energy is going into thinking about the ablation procedure I am going to have on 11/17 for my heart. Maybe I'm still recovering from writing the thing in the first place. It did, after all, take five years. Maybe I'm lazy all of a sudden, even though that is one character flaw I've never had. Whatever the reason, I'm just trying to wait it out. Wait for the energy to shift. Wait for the inspiration to take those first baby steps towards publishing.
How about you? Do you find it hard to do what you don't want to do?

Tuesday, October 21, 2014

Telling the Truth Tuesday: Finding a small publisher

Well, the revisions are done and I heard back from the one small publisher I sent the manuscript to and it wasn't a good fit. So now I'm researching other ones and preparing cover letter, synopsis and sample chapters. I hate this part of being a writer, but I know that if I want my book out there after all this hard work writing it, this is what I must do. I also know that if I can't find acceptance with a small publishing company, I will definitely self-publish. Wish me luck, pretty please.

Monday, October 20, 2014

Monday Musings: hearts docs and our hearts

Hi everyone,
   I'm back home from my son's wedding. It was so very beautiful. I can't stop looking at the pictures, which I'm sorry to say I can't share because he's a very private person. If you've read my memoir, you know what this event means to me. I have no words.
    When I returned home I had an appointment with another cardiologist for a second opinion. This is the third heart doc I've seen. I am going to stick with this one and on 11/17 have a procedure called an ablation to fix the A-fib and fast heart rate. I'm keeping my fingers crossed.
    But here's what I want to talk about. Three cardiologists--doctors who specialize in fixing our hearts--the home of our emotions. Yet not one of these docs are warm and fuzzy. I find that so incredibly odd. Don't you?

Monday, October 6, 2014

Monday Musings: ON BLOGCATION

I'm at a family event this week and won't be blogging. Hugs and blessings to all of you and I'll catch up when I return next week.

Wednesday, October 1, 2014

Jessica Bell's new release and Insecure Writer's Support Group - October


To celebrate the release of Jessica Bell’s latest novel, WHITE LADY, she is giving away an e-copy (mobi, ePub, or PDF) to the first person to correctly guess the one true statement in the three statements below. To clarify, two statements are lies, and one is true:

Sonia ...
a. and her family only eat with plastic knives to protect themselves.
b. makes sure that all the knifes are facing upwards when she is washing the dishes so that she can “accidentally” hurt herself when she puts them away.
c. makes sure all the knifes are facing downwards in the dish rack so as not to be tempted to use them.

What do you think? Which one is true? Write your guess in the comments, along with your email address. Comments will close in 48 hours. If no-one guesses correctly within in 48 hours, comments will stay open until someone does.

Want more chances to win? You have until October 31 to visit all the blogs where Jessica will share a different set of true and false statements on each one. Remember, each blog is open to comments for 48 hours only from the time of posting.

If you win, you will be notified by email with instructions on how to download the book.

Click HERE to see the list of blogs.

*This novel contains coarse language, violence, and sexual themes.

​Sonia yearns for sharp objects and blood. But now that she’s rehabilitating herself as a “normal” mother and mathematics teacher, it’s time to stop dreaming about slicing people’s throats.

While being the wife of Melbourne’s leading drug lord and simultaneously dating his best mate is not ideal, she’s determined to make it work.

It does work. Until Mia, her lover’s daughter, starts exchanging saliva with her son, Mick. They plan to commit a crime behind Sonia’s back. It isn’t long before she finds out and gets involved to protect them.

But is protecting the kids really Sonia’s motive?

Click HERE to view the book trailer.
Click HERE for purchase links.

Jessica Bell, a thirty-something Australian-native contemporary fiction author, poet and singer/songwriter/guitarist, is the Publishing Editor of Vine Leaves Literary Journal and the director of the Homeric Writers’ Retreat & Workshop on the Greek island of Ithaca. She makes a living as a writer/editor for English Language Teaching Publishers worldwide, such as Pearson Education, HarperCollins, MacMillan Education, Education First and Cengage Learning.

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Yikes - it's October. Where did the summer go? Time is moving so fast. The first Wednesday of the month is Insecure Writer's Support Group day (IWSG), the brainchild of Alex, the Ninja Captain of the blogosphere: http://www.alexjcavanaugh.blogspot.com
Please check out Alex's blog, if you haven't already, to get the list of awesome members of this supportive group of writers.

I am feeling secure this month. I finished my novel--my first attempt at fiction. It took me five years to write, and I was pretty much kicking and screaming the entire time that I couldn't write fiction. I have to tell the truth here, I needed help with craft technique, and I got it in spades from my writing coach, Mark David Gerson http://www.mdgmedia.com. Without him, I never would have birthed this book. He guided me every step of the way. Many many blessings to you, Mark David. I am so grateful.

My insecurity comes from the next phase of this project--publishing. I have decided that a small press is the best avenue for this novel. One press is reading it now--I'm keeping my fingers crossed. But I am hopeful, even if that doesn't pan out, that I will find a home for this book. And if I don't, I am perfectly willing to self-publish. I'll just need lots and lots of help. And I know I'll find it right here in this loving, supportive, amazing group.