Welcome to Following the Whispers blog

Thank you so much for taking the time to visit. Hope you enjoy your stay. I blog here whenever I feel the need. This blog was created at the time my memoir came out, in February, 2009. Its motto was: creating a life of inner peace and self-acceptance from the depths of despair. Now, my focus is sharing this journey we call life.

“Only one thing is more frightening than speaking your truth, and that is not speaking it.” Naomi Wolf

“We are called human beings, not human doings.” Wes Nisker, Buddhist teacher

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs…(And) if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.” Theodore Roosevelt

Wednesday, January 27, 2016

uh oh - the case of the disappearing followers

So, is blogger at it again? I've lost 20 followers in two days.
What say you, bloggers?

Wednesday, January 20, 2016

Feeling strange

I'm feeling so strange. I'm not working on a writing project. At all. Haven't since my novel came out at the end of October. Instead, I'm dancing 9-10 times a week (that includes Sugartime and Sophisticated Ladies practices). Some days I'm dancing 4 hours (two hours each practice). My body isn't used to this much physical activity. I spent two years not able to exercise because of my heart problem. Now that I don't have A-fib anymore, I can be more active, but my heartbeat still goes irregular if I get aerobic. The kind of dancing I do doesn't raise my heart rate enough to make it aerobic, which is a good thing.

I've never been athletic, although as a kid I played squash and some softball and rode a bike and roller skated. I don't do any of those things now. And I hate hate hate gyms so I don't do that. I've asked a good friend who is athletic and knows a lot about the body and exercise to help me come up with something I can do at home to strengthen my core and my legs. My legs are weak, especially the ankle I fractured in seven places in 2006. But I'm determined to get stronger. I know that as I age, this is very important to keep my mobility and functioning.

When I'm writing, that seems to take all my time, energy and attention and I don't have the energy for much else. Now I feel that way about all this physical exercise. I don't have the energy for writing.
Maybe someday I'll have the energy for both, but for now, I'm getting used to feeling strange about not writing.


Wednesday, January 13, 2016

Women and weight and aging and beauty

I just had to post this recent article from the New York Times about Princess Leia and the fact that she's older and bigger and wiser, but no one's talking about that!


Since this is an issue I've struggled with all of my life, I'd really like to know when, if ever, we women will ever stop worrying about how we look!!!!


Monday, January 11, 2016

Monday Musings: perceptions

How I perceive myself and how others perceive me can be two very different phenomena. I'm someone who is constantly working on changing the things about myself that don't work. Sometimes I'm successful. Sometimes I slide back and behave in old ways. I've been thinking a lot about how I perceive myself and last Friday an incident made me think about how I am perceived and how that affects my relationships.

I used to be nervous and anxious most of the time about just about everything. Being that way I'm sure had an impact on how others felt being around me. And knowing that about me, their responses to my conversations took my anxiety into account.

But what if I'm not nervous and anxious anymore. And yet friends are still responding to me as if I am. Is it possible to change perceptions without having to say it out loud? Can people see and hear changes?

That led me to thinking about just how present and consciously aware we are. How many of us go through life pretty much on auto-pilot, wake up the same time each morning, have pretty much the same breakfast, go to work or, for those of us who are retired, go to our daily activities, maybe have lunch or dinner with a friend. If we're not fully present, of course we won't notice subtle changes in ourselves or our friends.

My spiritual retreat, which began during the holiday season, has led to some deep, life-changing insights and shifts in how I move through my world. Long held negative beliefs are leaving my psyche and my soul and I feel different inside my own skin.

Perhaps as my perceptions about myself and my world change, the perceptions of those around me will begin to shift as well.

Do your perceptions of yourself match the perceptions of those in your life?

Wednesday, January 6, 2016

Insecure Writer's Support Group - January

Welcome to 2016 and the first Wednesday of the first month of the new year for insecure writers everywhere. Thanks to Alex http://www.alexjcavanaugh.blogspot.com for creating the Insecure Writers Support Group where we get to share our writing journey and meet others traveling this path. Please visit Alex to get the info on how to join and who else to visit.

I'm not writing. I'm not sure why. I'm not sure I'm insecure about it. It just feels weird. I'm really enjoying the freedom of not being a slave to a story. I'm reading more. I'm singing more. I'm contemplating more. My retreat from blogging and writing helped me immensely. I am doing some deeply personal, spiritual work and subtle shifts are occurring with issues I've struggled with all my life. I do believe I will write again. I will definitely write here on my blog as the spirit moves me to do so - to share insights, lessons learned, etc. from this incredible journey called life.

Wishing all of you a year where your intentions are met and your souls feel fulfilled.