Welcome to Following the Whispers blog

Thank you so much for taking the time to visit. Hope you enjoy your stay. I blog here whenever I feel the need. This blog was created at the time my memoir came out, in February, 2009. Its motto was: creating a life of inner peace and self-acceptance from the depths of despair. Now, my focus is sharing this journey we call life.

“Only one thing is more frightening than speaking your truth, and that is not speaking it.” Naomi Wolf

“We are called human beings, not human doings.” Wes Nisker, Buddhist teacher

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs…(And) if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.” Theodore Roosevelt

Friday, October 27, 2017


I'd given up on ever being a grandmother. My son married late and is in his early forties and there were other reasons it might not ever happen, so I let go of that dream. Now he's expecting twin babies, a boy and a girl, and ever since I learned they were pregnant, I've landed in a new universe -- grandma land. I can't stop thinking about these babies and how my son's life is going to change. And how these babies are going to change everyone's lives around them. Including mine and my husband's. My hubby and I married when we were in our forties and I was already done having children, so he never had any. Now he's going to be grandpa to twins. He's going to be great with them, I just know it. He's someone who should have had a child because he's still so much in touch with the child inside of him. I lost the child inside of me a long time ago and I've been working for many many years to find her again.

Now the twins are almost here. They will come within the next four weeks and I can't seem to do anything except wait. We will go see them after they're born, then their mom will be home with them for three months maternity leave, then hubby and I will go take care of them for a few months. I have no idea what grandma land will be like once they're here, but if it's anything like what grandma land is like now, I'm in trouble because I am totally, hopelessly, madly enchanted and in love with them and can't seem to think about or do anything more than jigsaw puzzles or knit.

Sounds like falling in love, doesn't it?


Saturday, October 14, 2017

Hi dear friends,
My writing coach and dear friend, Mark David Gerson is having a fantastic holiday sale, so if you or any of your writer friends are looking for a great guide for writing, here's a wonderful opportunity.

Here's the link to purchase: www.markdavidgerson.com/books/holidaysale


Wednesday, October 4, 2017

Insecure Writer's Support Group - October

Yikes. It's October. Where did this year go? The older we get, the faster time flies. It's really scary.
Anyway, here we are at the first Wednesday of the month, which means another opportunity to share about our writing journey, thanks to Alex at www.alexjcavanaugh.blogspot.com, who created this wonderful group.

I haven't written anything since my anthology came out. I'm not sure why. My energy has just been elsewhere -- on my singing duo, Sugartime, on becoming a grandma to twins in a few months, on travel. I debated about dropping out of this group, since it is called

the Insecure Writer's Support Group, but I realized that when who you are is a writer, you're a writer whether you're actually writing or not. What I mean by being a writer is that I think writers move through the world in very different ways than folks who don't write. For me, I'm all about the history (backstory) peoples' stories (characterization) and what has happened to them in their lives (plot). So, I'm not going to drop out. Instead, I'll talk about what I'm insecure about - my weight. I've gained 20 pounds over the last three years. For those of you who don't know, I spent most of my adult love somewhat obese. When I met my husband I weighed 183 pounds (I'm only 5'3) so that's pretty big.
I lost and gained many times since my twenties, but in 2009, I lost 60 pounds and kept it off for years. So when it started coming back on without me changing the way I'd been eating to maintain, it was very disturbing. Now it's even more upsetting. I realized my weight is just a symptom of a much deeper insecurity about my looks and how I feel about myself. So this is a good thing that it's reared it's ugly head again so that I can have an opportunity to heal it.

I am working with someone and am making slow but steady progress. Thank goodness I've done enough work on myself to know that how I look isn't who I am. And that who I am is a loving, kind person.

Anyway, I could probably write a book on this subject (ha, maybe that's my next writing project), but this is a blog post, so I'll end here.

What are you feeling insecure about in your life?